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| Author: | school25 [ Wed Aug 31, 2011 3:43 am ] |
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soo I was abt to have sex with gf but couldnt hav a bone ;l . . wat tha fk? 2 stressed or somethin maybe? anyone can help pls |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Wed Aug 31, 2011 3:57 am ] |
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Don't stress and just do a bunch of foreplay. If you're not thinking about it, you'll eventually become aroused enough to get it. It's not a big deal. Only thinking that it is will hold you back. |
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| Author: | school25 [ Wed Aug 31, 2011 4:07 am ] |
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Quote: Don't stress and just do a bunch of foreplay. If you're not thinking about it, you'll eventually become aroused enough to get it. It's not a big deal. Only thinking that it is will hold you back.
idk man.. was pretty awkward so at the end we didnt do shitI threw out a stupid excuse atleast hehe |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Wed Aug 31, 2011 4:16 am ] |
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If it isn't arousal, then here's the solution: From The Sex God Method (which comes highly recommended): "...if you find yourself unable to achieve an erection, the solution is not to try harder and harder to become aroused. If you can become aroused enough to get an erection by yourself, looking at porn, you will certainly be aroused enough when you actually have a naked girl in bed with you. Your efforts at trying harder to arouse yourself will only cause insecure and panicky thoughts, which will only exacerbate your troubles. Arousal is not the problem; Immersion is." Immersion, he explains, is the "absence of thoughts" during sex. When everything in your mind is whited out not by thoughts of fucking her, but just... nothing. Like a meditation state that makes sex more enjoyable. |
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| Author: | pyuya [ Thu Sep 01, 2011 5:49 am ] |
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this might be afc advice but i read it in a book - tell her you want to take things slow and you can fool around, but you have rules like (no penetration sex or touching your boner until the x date) or something.. |
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| Author: | Don Draper [ Thu Sep 01, 2011 8:17 am ] |
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Shred the book. And if you do have to refer sources, look for things which don't give out such stupid advice. |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Thu Sep 01, 2011 1:40 pm ] |
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Quote: And if you do have to refer sources, look for things which don't give out such stupid advice.
I disagree with you here, Don. I think Pyuya's book doesn't mean anything, but what the Sex God Method says is solid advice. Perhaps I'm not explaining it well.The point of what Rose says in his book is that the more you think "oh, geez, I'm not getting an erection", the more you're going to stress out over it and freak. When you do that, it will be even harder to get an erection. The trick is not stressing out, and letting the body do its thing naturally, which will happen, rather than trying to force it. I don't meditate or anything like that anyways, but I do concentrate on nothing but enjoying myself when I'm having sex. In other words, I'm not focusing on "here's some technique that will drive her crazy" or "Is she enjoying this?" or "Geez, I can't get an erection". You will drive her crazy, she will enjoy it, and you will get an erection if you just don't focus on it, and do what comes naturally. It's usually a psychological thing more than a physical thing. At least that's been my experience, and that's what Rose says as well. |
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| Author: | PRookie [ Thu Sep 01, 2011 1:53 pm ] |
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The point of what Rose says in his book is that the more you think "oh, geez, I'm not getting an erection", the more you're going to stress out over it and freak. When you do that, it will be even harder to get an erection. The trick is not stressing out, and letting the body do its thing naturally, which will happen, rather than trying to force it. I don't meditate or anything like that anyways, but I do concentrate on nothing but enjoying myself when I'm having sex. In other words, I'm not focusing on "here's some technique that will drive her crazy" or "Is she enjoying this?" or "Geez, I can't get an erection". You will drive her crazy, she will enjoy it, and you will get an erection if you just don't focus on it, and do what comes naturally. It's usually a psychological thing more than a physical thing. At least that's been my experience, and that's what Rose says as well.
Yeah This is usually called Quicksand, The harder you try the worse it gets! This is usually only something in your head, make up your mind that you will not have sex, then just do the foreplay a few times. Then you can try again! But if it happens alot You should look it up! PRookie! |
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