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Author:  bp029 [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 5:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Telling a girl you think she's attractive
Do you guys think it's a major DLV to wait until email/text to tell a girl you find her attractive (as opposed to telling her in person)? Do you think it could be the difference between bigger/better things and landing in the friend zone?
Author:  ProfessorX [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 6:49 pm ]
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Do you guys think it's a major DLV to wait until email/text to tell a girl you find her attractive (as opposed to telling her in person)? Do you think it could be the difference between bigger/better things and landing in the friend zone?
YES and YES! If you're going to pull that advanced move off you need to look in her eyes and be in the moment with her. Saying it by email or text is a really weak way to go. She'll assume you're scared to actually say it to her, which let's face it, you are. You can't just float something like that out into cyberspace and expect it to hit it's target the way you want it to. Definite friend zone move.
Author:  highflyin [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 8:21 pm ]
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Do you guys think it's a major DLV to wait until email/text to tell a girl you find her attractive (as opposed to telling her in person)? Do you think it could be the difference between bigger/better things and landing in the friend zone?
YES and YES! If you're going to pull that advanced move off you need to look in her eyes and be in the moment with her. Saying it by email or text is a really weak way to go. She'll assume you're scared to actually say it to her, which let's face it, you are. You can't just float something like that out into cyberspace and expect it to hit it's target the way you want it to. Definite friend zone move.
this^

people are different but i also refrain from telling a girl she is attractive (general statement). pick something specific and compliment her on that (you smell great, etc)
Author:  EddieFews [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 10:32 pm ]
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I don't see why you feel it neccessary to tell a girl she's attractive at all... And certainly don't do it over a text message. Your not even looking at her -_-

Don't get me wrong, i tell my chicks there hott all them time, but I also have a substantial amount of other things to compliment them on.

Look compliments are something they here all the time from "strangers". Look deeper into her. She'd be happier if you saw more to her than what's on the surface
Author:  bp029 [ Mon Aug 29, 2011 12:32 am ]
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I don't see why you feel it neccessary to tell a girl she's attractive at all... And certainly don't do it over a text message. Your not even looking at her -_-

Don't get me wrong, i tell my chicks there hott all them time, but I also have a substantial amount of other things to compliment them on.

Look compliments are something they here all the time from "strangers". Look deeper into her. She'd be happier if you saw more to her than what's on the surface
Well by tell her she's attractive I don't mean those words exactly. I'm struggling to show her that I am interested. I can't do it through touch so I'm need to do it verbally which in the past I would do through text or email. I find I am struggling to do it verbally in person too so I'm not sure what is next. Maybe text/email is the only way.
Author:  EddieFews [ Mon Aug 29, 2011 12:37 am ]
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Okay dude, ignore the advice from someone a lot more exprienced that you asked for.

Good luck
Author:  Tidy [ Mon Aug 29, 2011 3:40 am ]
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You never want a girl that you like to be completely that you find her hot. She has control over you at that point. That is not attractive. Once you do that you've put the ball in her court, walked away and sat and the sidelines too see if she actually wants to do anything with it.

YOU need to be making all the decisions. YOU need to be the one running your conversations and meetings, and YOU need to be the one to make all the advances. It makes you attractive to women if they feel they need to work for you and when you take control.
Author:  Don Draper [ Mon Aug 29, 2011 7:26 am ]
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Well, you can always tell a girl that you're attracted to her.

But, remember to say that in a way that it is a fact in your life, not anything extraordinary.

Something similar to, "The Eiffel Tower is in Paris", think about that tone. It's flat, indifferent but true.

The problem with most men when telling a girl that they are attracted to them is that, they invoke too much emotion into it, which freaks the girl out.

An indifferent "I am attracted to you." confuses her, you are saying one thing while your body and your voice is saying another. Confusion is a hook.
Author:  kastle [ Wed Aug 31, 2011 4:39 pm ]
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only when im doing direct approaches in the daytime

ex: "hey, you're very cute/sexy/dazzling... i had to stop you for a sec to see what you were like"

im trying to qualify her..
im coming from the angle of "i think she's cute.. but let me see if there's more to her than just look"..
Author:  Ezo [ Wed Aug 31, 2011 6:35 pm ]
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She will assume that you find her attractive since you spend time talking to her. Unless she has issues or just generally feel unattractive. Based on that, if she feels unattractive, she probably is below average.

So:

You spending time on her = she is attractive

at least in your opinion.

All other reassurance or qualification is done when a connection has been established, as in day 3 or sth...
Author:  Khrem [ Wed Aug 31, 2011 8:02 pm ]
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Do you find her attractive? yes? then tell her. Here is the thing: if you think she's attractive and just want to throw it out there, it's not a big deal. But if you "like" her, simply because she's attractive, you're a tool.

Forget demonstration of lower value, you actually just are low value. Guys who like girls purely based on looks are low value. A true pimp has options, lots of them. He's not afraid to lose girls because he has abundance. And he doesn't gave a rat's ass about looks because there's good looking girls all over the place, and he's looking for something deeper.

Dude, how long have you know this girl for? If you've just met her, then sure, just throw it out there. It shouldn't matter. But don't expect anything in return. If you have known this girl for a while, then chances are you've already been friend-zoned. If you actually like her, what about her is it that you like? Is it her personality? Her outlook? Her energy? Or is it superficial and only skin deep? Don't lie to yourself, it sounds like you like her only for her looks.

Whatever you do, DO NOT TEXT or EMAIL. That, by definition, is you trying to elicit a response => taking value => you have low value. Just ask her out, directly. Not like, "let's hang out as friends". Let her know you are asking her out on a date, between a guy and a girl, involving sexual attraction. She'll understand. If you lose her, you lose her.

I forgot who came up with this rule, but I find it true: if you care enough about a girl to go online and make a thread about her, you won't get her.
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