Hey PUA community! I'm new to this website and need some help. I'm 27 and 5' 10" at about 170 LBS.
I'm definitely not muscular but I have some base definition starting. So, I have an aesthetically pleasing body and from what I've been told, I'm extremely handsome.
I have a problem though. I really haven't dated much at all in life, I've never had sex.
I've lived a very socially isolated life up until these last couple of years, which has made me strange in conversation and in general. I'm not a complete dumpster fire but I tend to freeze a bit when I get nervous.
So anyway, I joined a very "non-traditional" dating website a few days ago and in no time at all, I stumble upon a BOMBSHELL lady's profile. She's a 10/10 to me and I was bold enough to start messaging her.
Now I know what you're thinking but no it's not a hookup website. I'm not going to call it by name but it's like facebook in a sense. Bottom line, she is real.
She's insanely hot and as it turns out, she is interested in sex with me. (I'm talking like....handcuffs, choking, rope, next level dungeon stuff).
Now I know what you're thinking, lol....you think I'm just going to go let some stranger tie me up. Nah, I'm pretty wise about risk and reward.
I'm 100% convinced I'm not being catfished. I'm 100% sure she has intent to go all the way if we meet and it turns out I'm not a psychopath.
But....I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I'M DOING!
I know what sex is, it's all I think about and the fact that I've gone this long fills me with self hatred. Especially since I've been called cute/handsome/hot most of my life. I don't know a lot about relationships or subtle body language, I'm really lacking. (My style is pretty on point and I emphasize my muscular torso. I also went out and bought some Acgua di gio Eros which, albeit expensive, lives up to it's reputation. Hot dang it smells otherworldly!)
I say all of this because I'm in need of advice. Like what should I say the moment I meet her? (I'm set to meet her in 2 days).
"Hey <name>! (Hug her), wow, you look great!"?
Then should I immediately jump into kinky topics? Because I think she hinted at just the two of us discussing what we plan to do once we are naked. Dirty dirty stuff. Or maybe....maybe she just wants to see me as a human being first, before she bangs me? *Shrug*
The pretext (and bonus), is that she knows I'm just trying to have kinky sex with her and I know she just wants to get with me as well. There....isn't even a chance for me to wonder in my head "does she like me?"
It's already been established! She thinks I'm handsome/hot and expressed clear interest in submitting to me and letting me have my way with her.
I'm supposed to meet her at a bar or a park in 2 days, for safety. Then, I assume, she intends to bring me to her place and let the games begin.
I'm a quiet, semi-fit white boy and she's a dynamite black/white mixed hottie. I don't understand why she wants this or why she doesn't pick some dude with 6-pack abs over me.
It doesn't make sense but I'm going to try as hard as humanely possible to make this work.
So please community, offer advice?
Trust me, I'm not freaking out too much. Don't tell me to calm down because I'm chill, just a tiny nervous I'll say something stupid.
It's critical that I do the rig
I bought some nice condoms just in case.