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First time poster, long time reader.
Here's the deal. I recently broke up with a long term gf. I really loved her and maybe one day we will end up together, but in the meantime I am playing the field to have fun and really just get experience/grow as a person, along with confirming/denying that she is "the one".
I don't f close girls i just met (unless i'm just so drunk, which is not often), but am pretty good at k closing and number closing most girls I am attracted too at the bar or whereever. I have also gotten lots of dates after I met the girls at the bar.....but here's the problem---
Once I get that first date I feel like I blow it. I get one or two dates then all communication ends. I am so poor at the simple shit, like logistics on when to text/call without being needy and all that crap. I can usually make out with a girl every night, but honestly I want more of a connection with these women. I don't just want sex but someone who I can count on and a "companion" and a friend or gf and all that.
Yes, this may sound different to many people out here, but this is what I want.
Is there a play-by-play for this shit or does anyone have advice. I haven't "dated" in 3 years because of a gf, but I want to now. I just don't want to get bj's and makeouts with random girls, but want to learn how to connect and have meaningful follow ups.
I have tried to be honest with girls and say i like them after two dates, but that backfires. I have also teased girls constantly and light heart flirting after a few dates, but again, that backfires.
PLease, any suggestions/comments/criticisms??
Hi. You're similar to me in the way of not really liking one-night stands. But I could bet we're quite few in numbers you're right First time poster, long time reader.
Here's the deal. I recently broke up with a long term gf. I really loved her and maybe one day we will end up together, but in the meantime I am playing the field to have fun and really just get experience/grow as a person, along with confirming/denying that she is "the one".
I don't f close girls i just met (unless i'm just so drunk, which is not often), but am pretty good at k closing and number closing most girls I am attracted too at the bar or whereever. I have also gotten lots of dates after I met the girls at the bar.....but here's the problem---
Once I get that first date I feel like I blow it. I get one or two dates then all communication ends. I am so poor at the simple shit, like logistics on when to text/call without being needy and all that crap. I can usually make out with a girl every night, but honestly I want more of a connection with these women. I don't just want sex but someone who I can count on and a "companion" and a friend or gf and all that.
Yes, this may sound different to many people out here, but this is what I want.
Is there a play-by-play for this shit or does anyone have advice. I haven't "dated" in 3 years because of a gf, but I want to now. I just don't want to get bj's and makeouts with random girls, but want to learn how to connect and have meaningful follow ups.
I have tried to be honest with girls and say i like them after two dates, but that backfires. I have also teased girls constantly and light heart flirting after a few dates, but again, that backfires.
PLease, any suggestions/comments/criticisms??
Now the thing is. You will hardly be able to connect with anyone on a deeper level unless you break your chains from the last one. I know this man. With one of my exes I thought it would last like forever. Everything was so perfect I could hardly believe it and the only thing because we broke up was distance... Nothing else but this. My mom tried to tell me not to worry we might end up together later but I knew that this way of thinking wouldn't do too much good. So I forced myself and said :"No. We will not end up together ever again. And it is fine this way." You have to move on. Also, please do yourself a favor and do not tell chicks you like them after the 2nd date. I mean not in a way that I think you do it. Not even if you slept with them. That's quite needy and a badass turn off. Teasing is good. But be careful with it how far you go. It's all about the calibration. I think this is the only thing you lack because you can get girls on day 1.