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Author:  Lamasshu [ Fri Jul 01, 2011 12:03 am ]
Post subject:  Keeping Conversations Going
Hey guys,

I have posted a related question somewhere else already, but now I would like to get your opinions and maybe your strategies.

My problem is that I can open more or less "naturally" and I can talk for about 5 minutes, but then I consistently run into the problem that I just don't know what to talk about anymore (or if I do, it is usually not the most fun or sexy stuff).

So, how do you guys manage to keep a conversation going? Any particular strategies? Any hints, tricks? All answers are highly appreciated!
Author:  xJokerz [ Fri Jul 01, 2011 2:26 pm ]
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When you open her (with a routine or not doesn´t matter) you already got some material to work with. She probably has a girlfriend with her so you can ask her where they know each other etc(if your Inner Game is solid you usually don´t have problems with that). If you really don´t know what to say and you both just stand there and say nothing the best you can do is to go because why should you waste your time with a girl that isn´t interesting.
Author:  Fragnance [ Sat Jul 02, 2011 1:59 am ]
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In 5 minutes, she would have given you millions of topics to talk about. The thing about it is being conscious about those topics.

Whenever she is talking, what I do is, I snap at every subject she mentions, keep a mental record of it, and when its my turn to talk, I choose from the best topic from the subjects she has given me to talk about.

When you choose to topic to talk about, you have to make sure that you give her more than two topics to talk about.

For example

She: "I love doing my nails. My mother once took me to a place and they are just simply great. I've been visiting them ever since"

Lame example I know, but look for subjects here : nails, mother, a place, visiting ever since.

Choose the best topic you like.

You: "I used to be a big deity of Iron Maiden so i would polish my nails black. Funny, it actually landed me in the principal's office"

or

You: "Funny, my mother would give me a haircut that the whole school would be so jealous of. I was like a whatever and and everyone would wanna know the secret, and I'd simply advertise the barber on the next street"

You chose a topic and while talking about it, you gave her more than two topics for her to choose from and talk about.

Practice makes it unconscious. This type of talking is superficial talking. I believe it lays the foundation for discovering commonalities and gives way for kino to start. Once I start kino I go for sexual tension with some comfort building talking, knowing more about her with personality tests, etc.
Author:  Lamasshu [ Mon Jul 04, 2011 12:24 am ]
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Thanks a lot for your responses so far. Let me elaborate a bit more on that problem with a recent real life situation:

I went out with my target and some of her friends to have some beers (Background: I indirectly offered a date but as she did not have time, she offered me to join her and her friends instead, to which I agreed). Again, in the first time it was quite easy to find stuff to talk about, and later on it was easy to just talk to other people. However, later on when everybody was leaving and we have literally been alone, all I could think of talking about was politics and this kind of stuff. I could not think of any topic that evoke (positive) emotions and bring it to a sexual or at least exciting level. The problem was that all basic questions that I usually use as a last resort when conversations get stuck have already been used and sufficiently exploited.

Hence I figured out two points for myself:
First: I need to become better in making up topics out of spontaneous situations.
Second: I need more premeditated questions leading to desired topics / emotions.

I guess with respect to the first point I have to get more experience. With respect to the second point, maybe you guys could help me and suggest what topics / questions you guys are using in such situations? Also, if there is anything else you guys can recommend for such situations, please go ahead.
Author:  Fragnance [ Mon Jul 04, 2011 4:08 am ]
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First: I need to become better in making up topics out of spontaneous situations.
I agree to this. Just think of random words and try to make long sentences with that word. Ask somebody else to give you random words. Don't make sentences like these - Say the word is car, I like driving fast cars. Make something like - I like driving convertibles and the best one I've driven so far is so and so on a sunny day.

You get the point?
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Second: I need more premeditated questions leading to desired topics / emotions.
Pre-determined questions are a quick fix according to me, fixing the awkward silences. What you should do is really listen to what she is saying. As I pointed out before, she will give you enough topics to talk about on.
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