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Author:  zookmaster [ Tue May 17, 2011 2:39 am ]
Post subject:  Looks like I'm losing this girl what should I do?
Girl I work with been talking to 3 months. We get on so good, she could never deny it but about a month ago she told me she didn't want a boyfriend but then she still kept flirting with me and still contacted me. We have got on very well and feel like bf/gf....we just laugh so much. She used to call alot(nearly everyday for 8 weeks) now the last few weeks she stopped.

When she looks at me her eyes are warm, she has a great time. Last monday we spoke she sounded really interested again and we discussed doing something the next day although she was busy.

I called and txt her the next day and she didn't respond. She txt the day after about something else and never mentioned it. On friday I went to speak to her on facebook chat and she logged of right away.

WTF! last we spoke she was very positive I thought. I log back on and she was on and went again. Today she was on the chat never logged out but never said anything. I thought someone at work had been badmouthing me or something.

In person our chemistry is amazing. I managed to speak to her today(7 days after our last phone chat) she didn't sound too happy and said she had been stressed the last few days. I told her what I thought right away, I told her I feel close to her and she is someone I would introduce to my family and I think we have a connection.

She told me she doesn't know what she wants right now or who she wants to be with. She said she doesn't want anyone(me) to feel she is theirs, and act funny when she speaks to people.

She says lots of guys ask her out and they want something serious but she isn't ready. After I mentioned it she reluctantly sort of agreed with me we have a connection. I joked with her saying I worked hard at my job and need a reward she goes "go and get one then" I said "I don't need to go far" :S

I said we click well and we shouldn't let it go. She says "I'm not letting it go, but we didn't see eachother that much and this is only early" she added "if I have a relationship now it won't last long trust me" I felt like I was talking about it too deep when I said "It could be a month or 2 or 3. Maybe you will be ready" she was like "yeaaaa I dunno"

She felt awkward but we haven't had a chat about us in 4 weeks. She even put the phone down and when I called back said something happpened with her phone.

She agreed to go to work with me on Thursday. What should I do? she is normally upbeat, but said she was stressed, she thinks single is boring but doesn't want a relationship. I know another guy likes her and I think she likes him, there is a pic she put up on facebook and they are hugging. It's like 2 months of us as unoffical couple meant nothing. Working with her is going to be a pain!
Author:  AFCdego [ Tue May 17, 2011 8:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Looks like I'm losing this girl what should I do?
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she thinks single is boring but doesn't want a relationship. I know another guy likes her and I think she likes him, there is a pic she put up on facebook and they are hugging. It's like 2 months of us as unoffical couple meant nothing.
I read that more as "you have become more beta than I thought you would. I want a relationship but until you prove worthy I am not giving you shit."

A) Stop and think about how beta most of that conversation with her was.

B) Realise it is irrational one-itis and back off - read the signals she is sending as "too much too quick"

C) Play around, be seen as alpha with other girls (maybe bring them to where you work or go for lunch nearby etc - preferably attractive but preselection works with most girls)
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Working with her is going to be a pain!
D) If thats the way you feel - don't. Why waste the time and breath of your life focusing on a negative aspect when you can just drop it and move on to something that will make you feel good?
Author:  zookmaster [ Wed May 18, 2011 4:16 am ]
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Not as easy as that though. I mean I'm good looking but I just don't have a social life to be honest, I can't pick out lots of girls and be seen as Alpha when I don't really have that kind of lifestyle.
Author:  AFCdego [ Wed May 18, 2011 9:55 am ]
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Not as easy as that though. I mean I'm good looking but I just don't have a social life to be honest, I can't pick out lots of girls and be seen as Alpha when I don't really have that kind of lifestyle.
I honestly was just like this.

You don't just get that lifestyle when you land a girl, you build the lifestyle, then land the chick.

Make an effort to eat healthier, get fitter, dress smarter and get out and about in the city or shops, wherever.
On a day to day basis be confident in your interactions and push the boundaries.
There is no way you are going to land a girl if you just sit there questioning people on forums what to do.
It isn't easy, no, but once it gets going an alpha lifestyle is more rewarding in every aspect.

Forget about this one girl and work towards others.
Author:  zookmaster [ Thu May 19, 2011 10:32 am ]
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I txt her to meet me to go to work today and she ignored it. I arrived at work and she wasn't there till late but I caught her at the end of the night(went out my way to find her) she embraced me and smiled(she hugs alot of ppl though) and looked nervous probably because she was guilty for ignoring me. I asked her what time she got here and she said late and that she was at her friend house.

Her eyes were watering so much, she smiling at me it look like she was gonna cry.

I looked in hers and I felt emotional and really nervous, she said she had to go so I walked off and told her to take care, she said she would call me but don't think she meant it.

She looked like she wondered why I never hugged her again but I didn't want to smother her and kept a bit of distance. She was really teary eyed. What could it mean?
Author:  Bentley27 [ Thu May 19, 2011 7:31 pm ]
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She is a girl version of us.. I gurantee she will be right back around if you go an entire shift without talking to her or giving her eye contact. Don't be weird just be busy.
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