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| Author: | jaminv [ Mon May 16, 2011 4:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Oneitus via Exhaustion? |
So I find gaming exhausting. It's both mentally and physically exhausting to me, and I don't really like doing it. It seems that over and over again, when I do actually end up landing a chick, I end up catching oneitus becuase I lack the energy to continue going out and gaming more chicks. I become complacent really quickly, and I just stop putting myself out there and settle for what I have. I'm actually going to see a psychiatrist about social anxiety, but the last time I didn't he didn't recommend anything. I'm finding that I find social situations mentally exhausting. I don't have the same problem with people I know, but I get that way around strangers. Bars, clubs, and places like that all make me anxious. Then, when I actually push myself to try to talk to these people, it gets worse. I feel like I have to be "on" all the time, and it's draining. When I do these things, I find I need to "wind down" by spending time by myself. I have a long history of spending a lot of time by myself. Aside from psychiatric help and presumably drugs, I'm wondering if there's anything else I can do about this? Does anyone else have a similar problem? More important, has anyone overcome something like this? I can be really debilitating. Currently, my goal is to date a lot of women. I just got out of a bad long term relationship that was the result of settling when I shouldn't have. I want to make sure I explore what's out there before I decide to settle down again. I do want a LTR, and eventually to get married, but I don't want to make sure a decision by "default". I want to see what's out there and pick the woman that's right for me. But I'm already starting to feel myself settling for the first woman I've gone on a date with. She's a really great woman, and maybe she is a good woman for me, but I wouldn't know because I have nothing to compare her to! I need help staying in the game despite the fact that I am already dating someone. Any suggestions? |
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| Author: | jaminv [ Mon May 16, 2011 6:12 pm ] |
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I had a really positive interaction with a girl today, and it helped me realize something. I think a lot of what I'm feeling is due to lack of patience and experience. Developing from AFC to PUA is a pretty tough road (for me at least). It's clear I'm making progress, but it's slow going. In the meantime, I have a desire/need for sex and companionship. Since it tends to take me a long time to f-close, it's difficult for me to f-close without it developing (or having already developed) into a LTR. Once I'm in a LTR, I tend to not pursue other women, for good reason. I also, however, tend to not flirt, and basically everything I've worked on goes out the window when I acutally find someone... I'm not sure how to end this vicious circle. |
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| Author: | slayerz [ Tue May 17, 2011 4:14 am ] |
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Dude im having similar results, i get oneitis after my first positive results because i think oh if i move on i might have missed something special because i didnt really get to know this girl. Right now im in that situation i cant stop thinking about this chick, i f-closed and now its like we dont even talk any more, we used to talk at least ery other day now its just gone cold turkey and im thinking its time to move on to find another one in order to forget about the one thats blowing me off. |
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