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Author:  PUA Kenny [ Wed Apr 13, 2011 3:57 pm ]
Post subject:  HB10 flaked on me last evening(WTF)!!
Ok guys,long story short:

I've been gaming an HB10 for the past 4 days.

This' the 1st chicc I've ever rated a 10 within the last 5 yaers.

Anyway,we set up a meet up for yesterday evening at a public-chill spot.

She was totally down for it!

Now,Im not trying to figure out why she flaked:it's almost a must that a girl flakes the first attempt at a meet-up.

My thing is now,what the hell should be my game plan from henceforth?

This' what I did:I sent her a reminder text about 20 min.prior to the meet-up.

"Hey Shella,dont forget to bring your ipod so I can checc out your music selection".

The reason for such text was to ease the tension & pressure of the meet up;which is usually tense & heavy & nerve-wreccing.

Rather than sending something awkward and cheesy like,"I really want to see you bad;make sure to not stand me up".

Anyway,she didnt reply.

I got nervous and called her-her phone went straight to voice mail(lol).

I re-called her few minutes later-no ring,no voice mail[perhaps phone off].

I was pissed because I'd spent half the day preparing the crib for the eventually lay:had my pad looking like something futuristic with blue-florescent lights and all(lol).

Well,that was it.I never re-text her nor try calling after about an hour.

Now guys,question is:what would you do?

Would you call her or tex her today some time,or wait to see if she'd contact first(via txt,etc.)?

Well I plan on calling her in another hour(1 pm)and totally pretend like the flake never happened.

I would not even call her out on it.

If she mentions it,I'd brush it off as though it never-then try re-scheduling.
Author:  LyricalDream [ Wed Apr 13, 2011 4:31 pm ]
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Wouldn't even call her for that matter.
Not even at this moment - or in the upcoming week.
Wait a sec - let her linger.. she'll come dangling..

≠ LD
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Wed Apr 13, 2011 5:48 pm ]
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Thanks for the input Lyrical Dream.

I can already picture her contacting me first.

I have no attachments to this girl,so it would be a piece of cake to just not contact her for a week.

Im not even concerned as to why she flaked.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 1:29 am ]
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Brief update:

She texted me round 5 pm with "hi".

I text her bacc totally not mentioning anything about the flake.

We text & flirted back & forth for half an hour.

The scene just didnt feel right to propose another meet up tonight,so I never tried setting up a meet for tonight.

Lack of Comfort is why she flaked.

So Im gonna work on comfort building & more rapport then set up the meet for this weekend.

Just hope she doesnt lose interest as days go by.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 2:04 am ]
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You gotta punish her for that shit.

I'd come right out and rub it in. (in a playful way)

Oooh girl, you missed the best time!

Make up some ridiculous shit about what a fantastic time you had sitting home alone. LOL

Get creative!!!

Fuck letting that shit go unpunished...
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 7:29 am ]
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@Mack2.0-Lol I hear you bro'.

Im not the one to let chics off the hook when they flake.

I always call them out on it in a playful way as the example you gave.

If she does bring it up,"Hey sorry about...",then I'll get creative with teasing her about it.

I'll keep yall posted.Thanks for the feedbacc guys.
Author:  Little Panda [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 7:59 am ]
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I would go with Mack's piece of advice. In addition to that, I would make sure to set the frame that I don't accept flakes in the future. Setting the tone straight right from the start will prevent any flakes from ever occurring again (unless legitimate).

I like the whole David D's "What are the chances of you not showing up today?". I don't remember exactly how it went, but it was pretty solid. As long as you send her the message that you're not the kind of guy that puts up with bullshit like that.

And the fact that she didn't even mention the flake at all? And pretends as if nothing happened? Really odd in my eyes.

Also, I love what you did here:
Quote:
This' what I did:I sent her a reminder text about 20 min.prior to the meet-up.

"Hey Shella,dont forget to bring your ipod so I can checc out your music selection".

The reason for such text was to ease the tension & pressure of the meet up;which is usually tense & heavy & nerve-wreccing.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 11:15 pm ]
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Hey what's up Little Panda(lol)?

Long time no hear.

Thanks bro' for liking the ease-the tension line I came up with about the ipod.

I totally find that meet-ups are nerve-wrecking for women.

Little texts like what I did could pay off in easing the tension.

Thanks for recognizing that.

I get the drift with the Deangelo line:it'd be great if you can provide a link to an article or something on it.

I want to believe it's to guage the possibility of flakes.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Thu Apr 14, 2011 11:21 pm ]
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UPDATE:she texted me around noon today(''hi'').

Didnt reply until around 5pm[really busy].

We texted a little,then I called her.

Playfully yet alphally busted on her for flaking.

Anyway,I set up another meet up for Friday(tomorrow).

She agreed enthusiastically on meeting up.

We'll see how it goes.
Author:  Little Panda [ Fri Apr 15, 2011 12:28 pm ]
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Quote:
Hey what's up Little Panda(lol)?

Long time no hear.

Thanks bro' for liking the ease-the tension line I came up with about the ipod.

I totally find that meet-ups are nerve-wrecking for women.

Little texts like what I did could pay off in easing the tension.

Thanks for recognizing that.

I get the drift with the Deangelo line:it'd be great if you can provide a link to an article or something on it.

I want to believe it's to guage the possibility of flakes.
Hey! Yeah, I'm back for some time lol. You should join the chatroom more often!

Anyways, I couldn't find the entire David D section on the dating part - but I found a line that could inspire you. Basically, if she flakes say something like this: ‘Now since you flaked on me, take me out. Come and pick me up.’

Setting the frame that you don't accept flakes and therefore you are now 'punishing' her for it.

I suggest you read the entire Double Your Dating if you're absolutely interested in this.

I see you got yourself another meetup. Good luck and post your results about it :)

Panda
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Fri Apr 15, 2011 10:43 pm ]
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@Little Panda-I actually never checced out the chat.I will though.

The David D line was cool:I'd have to checc for Double Your Dating.

UPDATE:Damn guys,the b**ch is acting flakey again for our proposed meet up tonight.

Clearly she's interested:she initiated texting about an hour go.

We texted a little.

I sent her a re-confirmation text about our meet-up.

After sending few flakey texts,she ends up sending a text saying that she prefers to meet at a more open-local(lol)!

How open can you get than a mini- local out door sports complex(lol).

It's where everbody meets up(lol)!!

True,it's a bit dark & secluded at spots but...

I guess it all comes down to comfort or lack of.I really didnt build on any rapport stuff.

So it's only 2 option left:opt for a more open-place(restaurant,etc.).

Or work on comfort(more phone convos)to build trust.

Dont mean to sound sneaky,but it's too risky to go on a traditional date(restaurants),since Im still with the MILF gf.

Would not like to bump into someone who knows my gf(lol).

So Im pretty much reduced to sneaking around to get a lay.

Anyway,Im gonna research some comfort-building techniques in order to allay the HB10s' fears.

But 2 friggin' flakes already from this chicc!!!

I never punished her really for the 1ts flake,so I guess she's taking advantage now.
Author:  AdamThomas [ Sat Apr 16, 2011 4:01 pm ]
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I usually call them out on it. I really can't stand flakey people. Telling them they missed a good time isn't that great, they'll know exactly what you're doing, and they'll know that really you're pissed off they didn't turn up. Doesn't make them want to meet you more. Sometimes girls like to have you as a back up plan in case they have nothing better to do. Sometimes they like the attention and having guys keep asking to meet them. Best thing to do is call them out on it, give them one more chance, and if they flake again just leave them alone completely.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Sat Apr 16, 2011 5:44 pm ]
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@AdamThomas-Good inight bro'.

You're 100% right about telling them that they'd missed out on a lot of fun would backfire.

Women are 10 times as perceptive as men,so they can see through lines like,"you dont know what you missed".

Another great point you made was about girls loving the attention of being being asked out.

That's why I never ask women out on traditional dates(dinner,movie,etc.).

Im more into,"Hey meet me at a sport event".

Traditional dates put too much pressure on the girl.

Anyway,I really need to build comfort and I know that.

To be honest,I dont even think Im at comfort phase yet(lol).
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Sat Apr 16, 2011 5:47 pm ]
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@AdamThomas-Good inight bro'.

You're 100% right about telling them that they'd missed out on a lot of fun would backfire.

Women are 10 times as perceptive as men,so they can see through lines like,"you dont know what you missed".

Another great point you made was about girls loving the attention of being being asked out.

That's why I never ask women out on traditional dates(dinner,movie,etc.).

Im more into,"Hey meet me at a sport event".

Traditional dates put too much pressure on the girl.

Anyway,I really need to build comfort and I know that.

To be honest,I dont even think Im at comfort phase yet(lol).
Author:  cygnus [ Sat Apr 16, 2011 8:29 pm ]
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Lol she probably has a bf and is chickening out.
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