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| Author: | TheFuckingItalian [ Thu Mar 10, 2011 2:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to avoid be perceived as "needy" |
I think this is MY BIGGEST sticking point. I know the rules, don't msg too often, keep it short, don't call her a lot (all those frequencies depend on the rapport, and on her way to handle communications). STILL let's say in a particular situation I know I am not supposed to send her a message, that I have to wait some days or stuff, but then the more I think about her the more I want to send her something, and I end up doing it like an idiot. Sometimes it is very difficult to stop myself. As of now, I've come up with those solutions: 1) Work harder at my job and don't get distracted. If I work harder I won't have time to send emails, or messages. 2) Get some new hobbies. Play guitar, play tennis, drawing courses etc. It will drive my mind away from her. Get hobbies to the point I actually have few time for anything else! 3) Gaming other girls to avoid thinking about only one girl at the time (this always lead to the perceived needyness) 4) Don't do something "for her". For example, I was dating a Greek girl, so I started learning Greek with some audiobook, to have fun speaking with her. But during every Greek lessons, I was thinking about her, this led to too many messages, too many emails and perceived needyness. This also happened to me when I buy gifts to my ex-girlfriends ahead of time. If I have to wait a month to give her birthday present, during that month I msg and call too much. 5) Avoid idealization of her. Some times a girl really seems "the one", or at least a very special person. There are a huge amount of special persons. She is just one of the millions. She's nothing special, even if she acts like she's the Princess of Persia. She's just a girl. And I'm just having a delusion about her. Do you have anything else to suggest? |
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| Author: | snakeeater1337 [ Thu Mar 10, 2011 4:31 pm ] |
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You could try going out for a same night lay (not just gaming other girls, but going out with the express purpose of SNL). After bedding a few women, your attitude might change. Unless you've already done that, then I don't know. It seems like you're on the right track. Also, hang out more with your friends. It does wonders for neediness. |
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