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| Author: | jrs87 [ Sun Mar 06, 2011 3:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Don't ask for help until AFTER you have tried yourself. |
I was tempted to ask on this forum about a particular girl that I met the other day and what to do next, and still am. But I think it is not a good idea to ask advice on what I should do or even what I could have done better unti AFTER I have tried myself and either fucked things up or succeeded. You may wonder why I would even ask for advice if succeed, and the reason is that I may not feel like I handled it very well nad could have done better. Even if I succeed, the idea is in learning to improve and be your best, not just getting by. Anyway, the reason I think it's best to not ask for advice until AFTER the situation has passed is because I think it makes you more outcome dependant if you ask BEFORE. I think if I ask "The situation is xxxx, what should I do next?" or whatever, then I am straight away making myself outcome dependant. I am making myself feel more like this particular girl matters and I want to correct THIS PARTICULAR SITUATION, rather than SITUATIONS LIKE THIS IN GENERAL. By just seeing what happens without help and THEN asking people what you did wrong or what you could have improved on, you are basically asking what about your game IN GENERAL can improve, not what you need to do to improve a PARTICULAR SITUATION with a PARTICULAR GIRL. You want to maintain that "whatever happens, happens" attidude, not "ok so I need to do this and this apparently for this to work out." I think in situations where the help you are asing is minor it is not such a big deal. But mostly I think it is important to ask for advice AFTER the situation has passed. What do you guys think? |
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| Author: | IOWA [ Sun Mar 06, 2011 6:24 pm ] |
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hey man im with you i hate when kids come and ask "hey i need advice right now on what to say to this girl i just met on facebook" this is such crap this wont help you. go out talk to real girls and fuck up make mistakes and do stupid things. youll learn by yourself what went wrong and youll see it the guys here may be able to guide you in the right direction but its you that walks the path. |
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