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| Author: | fred62 [ Mon Feb 28, 2011 4:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Trusting myself not to be a creep |
Hi. Sorry if I'm breaking etiquette by not lurking for very long. I have an intro (can't post the link; forum won't let me). (I have trouble cold-approaching chicks in public social settings (as opposed to parties inside my social network), but I'll save that for another time.) The main hang up I have is physical. Basically, due to a domineering female, and misandrous, presence in my childhood I've been freaked the fuck out about being a creep. I'm fine if she initiates it, but I realize that's not the broader social norm. This is something I definitely want to get beyond. As far as I know, I have decent instincts. I've never been turned down by a girl I felt was interested, so I'm at least in the ballpark of knowing what's going on. But, as in much of my life, I'm a (self) control freak, and don't trust myself. I've been doing things to challenge that in the big picture, like taking up activities where I have to think in the moment, but I have to deal with this directly. I'm not seeing anyone right now, but I'm eager to fight this fear, take that leap of faith. EDIT: I wanna add that this is an involuntary emotional thing. Intellectually, I know it makes no sense. I know they often want the same thing I do. I don't have any illusions about their inherent specialness, etc. |
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