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Author:  Ravino [ Mon Feb 21, 2011 10:08 am ]
Post subject:  Should we pay for HB's friends??
Hi everyone,

i never post anything before, usually i read and try to improve my game by reading others experience. I tried to search for this one and didn't found any. If anybody could show me if it had been discussed, will be appreciated.

Anyway, here is the story.
When i hit a girl, i never pay for their drinks or anything. But, when it comes to a date then i'll pay for her meal. But, what to do when the HB brings her friends (girls)??
below are the situation i encoutered several times :
aa. Her friends pay for their meal, i pay for the HB and I
bb. Her friends pay for their meal, HB pay for her meal
cc. Her friends act stupid and i have to pay for their meal

I usually pay the bill first, because i am the only guy in the group. I can bear with option aa and bb. But, in option cc?? what to do?
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Tue Feb 22, 2011 10:36 am ]
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This is actually a situation that you should avoid at all costs. You should never have to pay for you date and her friend. If you date wants to bring her friend, say no...or at least make it clear that you are not going to pay for the friend`s meal. This should be done over the phone, before you get to the date location
Author:  Coldman [ Wed Feb 23, 2011 2:02 am ]
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You shouldn't even do meals anyway (I'm assuming they're 1st dates as she HAS to bring a friend, because she's not comfortable enough to have 1 on 1 time?).

Meals are expensive, the reason for the date is to get to know eachother and build rapport/sexual interest/etc, get a drink, go shopping, chill in the park, etc... dates don't have to be traditional dinner+movie.

Mr_Amazing has some good points too.
Author:  Ravino [ Fri Feb 25, 2011 1:45 am ]
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Thanks mr Amazing n Coldman, will try to avoid it the next time it comes..But after reading tips from you guys. Another question comes up :
aa. Any idea how to say "no, i wont pay for your friends bills" in a nice way
bb. I agree with Coldman says, that she is not comfortable yet with 1 on 1 meeting. But what if i dont have another chance to meet her to build more comfort, let say i met her in a club. Build comfort over the phone?
Author:  Coldman [ Fri Feb 25, 2011 2:58 am ]
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Quote:
Thanks mr Amazing n Coldman, will try to avoid it the next time it comes..But after reading tips from you guys. Another question comes up :
aa. Any idea how to say "no, i wont pay for your friends bills" in a nice way
bb. I agree with Coldman says, that she is not comfortable yet with 1 on 1 meeting. But what if i dont have another chance to meet her to build more comfort, let say i met her in a club. Build comfort over the phone?
Phone should only be used to get her to meetup (and maybe build some comfort, just ENOUGH to get her to meetup though)... if you're experienced you can use the phone to do other stuff, but I'd stay away from it, keep phone conversations fun and short, it should always look like you have a busy life.... in real life is where the magic happens, where you can look into her eyes, touch her, and all that good stuff.

Not sure on question a, I never had that problem sorry :o

question b; If she's not comfortable yet with 1 on 1 you haven't done enough when you first met her... it's alright, just remember it for the next girl you meet to build enough comfort so that she'll be comfortable enough to see you 1 on 1.

Now what you can do with THIS girl is invite her over to an event you already have planned with multiple people, let her invite her friends too, could be anything a party, sport activity, etc. Then proceed on gaming her then. :)
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Fri Feb 25, 2011 10:18 am ]
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To be honest, only young minded girls bring their friends along on dates. I don`t see a normal, levelheaded girl having a problem meeting a guy in a public place. So the whole " not comfortable 1 on 1" sounds a little far fetched. On the other hand, she may not even realize you are proposing a "date", thus in her mind it was ok to bring her friend.
Author:  Ravino [ Fri Feb 25, 2011 11:06 am ]
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@Coldman, will try to invite her over to party i plan to throw this weekend. Will post the result by next week.

@Mr. Amazing, will try to be more clear on proposing a date at the party. If fail this time, will move on to other girl. :D
Author:  Maull3r [ Fri Feb 25, 2011 2:55 pm ]
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Remember your the alpha you say what goes on, your the gift not her, to be all honest I think bringing a friend is a shit test and you failed it. Just say "you and me date 7 o'clock *random place name* ill pick you up so we can get to know eachother better then after your friend can come by"
Author:  PUASA [ Thu Mar 03, 2011 4:48 pm ]
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This is why I dont do dates till way into the interaction.

cheap fun stuff man!
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