Ok this is basically the biggest and baddest sticking point I think I could ever have as it's effecting everything from getting my end away to having a future relationship, and I am seriously starting to think it might be terminal :'(
Basically, the more I like a girl... the less she likes me. AND, the more she likes me, the less I like her. It's like to opposite ends of a magnet never being able to meet.
This has been a problem since forever, in my younger year long before I even knew what PU stood for. Since learning some of the basics I've of course been 10x more successful... but despite this in that time since I found PU I haven't had a single seriously relationship. There were girls I really liked, and girls who really liked me, but never both at the same time, unless I had 2 or more girls going
Now maybe me loosing interest in the girls who like me is a bit of a tough one, but surely it shouldn't be so hard to get the girls I like to like me, shouldn't it? But for some reason I just can't. I always end up turning back to an AFC as soon as I start getting actual feelings for a girl.
Basically I want to meet her, and need to meet her to progress anything, so I need to call her and invite her to stuff or it'll will never go anywhere right? But the more I invite her out, the balance seems to tip and her attraction goes down, while mine continues to go up in frustration until the situation has snowballed into me being a total AFC.
I wish I could be more calculated and "fake it", something I've never been good at. Im the honest type and terrible at acting. But I know that in the situation when I'm not interested, at least some of them, the girls go wild! Had 1 or 2 practically stalking me, now how do I do this to the ones I actually like????? Any suggestions? articles I should read? What key point am I missing here cause its totally fucking up my life!