Hi everyone, first of all, sorry for the future mistakes, i'm french
Okay here is the deal.
Recently, with a group of friends, we've celebrated the birthday of one of a girl in this group. She is a friend with all my friends in the group, but just an acquaintance to me. I've chatted with here sometimes, i had her number but we didn't call each other.. it was just because we shared the same friends.
So at this party, i've decided to game her (it was last week), i've done some negs, push/pulls, we did a lot of kinos (she's touchy), some genuine things like drawing on each other hands... So i left the party at 3AM, and when i woke up the next morning, i saw a text message on my cellphone, she texted me about a challenge that we've taken (we may go skying with the group, and the winner of a race will pay the loser a diner), and told me that she's going to win. The same day she added me on facebook, leave me a message on my fb account, we exchanged text messages and she invited my to her party the next wednesday with the same persons. Some persons didn't come, so we were 3 and we ate and watched a movie. During the night, i did the same thing that the last party, i negged her, she negged me, she called me "mean" (with a smile) and tried to fight me.
When i went back to my home, i felt bad cause i know it didnt go like i wanted. Now she seems more distant from me, so i'm thinking about what happened during this 2 parties..
I know i have a problem to sexualize the conversation, i can be playfull, i can talk about sex, but i have problem creating sexual tension. I know i should have done this.. but i don't know how to conciliate "the guy who doesn't care (H2G)" and "the guy who care about her and want to go intimate with her" without being like a schizophrenic.
Maybe some of you can help me to analyze the situation.
I may have been too H2G and i think i have done to many push.. can i change the situation in my favor, bring the attract back?
What do you think about it ? It happened to me before, it's a recurrent problem of mine. How to be H2G and to care at the same time?
Another probelm is the one with the group, it's quite difficult to isolate in a group of friend where everybody knows each other, it's not like in a club.