ok... so I am just going to give a brief back ground of myself. Undecisive, moody, manipulative, insecure asshole. I think that pretty much tells you everything. Anyway back to my little problem.

I ruined my last couple of relatioonships because I guess I fear to carry out a serious relationship. I have been single for a year now and I need to get laid. I am talking to this chick, and I know that I am in. Thing is she is like really far from me. I want a relationship with someone doesnt matter with who just someone that I can relate with. This chick is pretty cool but the distance between us is killing me.

I just cant seem to control myself and my insecurities, what would you guys think that I do? Some suggestions, please.

Why do you want a relationship?

I just want to f-close, then move on to bigger and better things. I have this thing where I have to win or bust and I dont like to bust.

Go visit her if she wants you that bad, or tell her to come visit you. Whats the problem here?

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I guess I am just doubting myself too much. I convinced her to see me so I guess the problem has been solved.

Good.

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yes you are very insecure... You just want to F-close. You can fuck any girl it's really not that hard, common START TALKING TO MORE GIRLS. you will realize your not as pathetic as you thought. and then maybe you'll be secure enough that a girl actually WANTS to fuck you and you don't have to beg for advice on how to stick your dick in her.

if a fuck is all you want - then go the the bar tonight and turn your shit on....

i think you are a little more involved with this chick than you like to admit...
dont try to convince yourself to be something you arent...

Yes totally true. If I really want to get laid all I have to do is go to the bars and score me some one nighters. See the thing with me is that once I set my eyes on a catch I fixate myself on the one target. It's like a little game to feed my ego if you will. My insecurities play with that because I cant distinguish between being smooth enough or just being a dope and being led around the rosey.

not begging trying to get opinions about my little situation. I know how to stick my dick in her already, comes second nature, it's about knowing for sure if I got this in the bag. Which I should know that I do but that is where my insecurities kicks in. I don't know why I doubt myself but it's just a habit that comes because lack of confidence.

the best way to overcome insecureties around women is to first get some of them as friends. become comfortable just being around them without any of the sexual tention and all that. then have them introduce you to a friend of theirs that you find attractive, that way when you start talking to her, you dont have to try to open. then, once you are comfortable talking and flirting and being around girls, get a couple good topics, grow a set and approach. you dont need confidence, you just need to think you have confidence.