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I personally rarely or almost never verbalize anything sexually with a girl until after I have already slept with them or am directly about to. Its not necessary. I communicate with my body and my eyes all while discussing regular topics. I will however physically escalate at my own leisure, once enough comfort (fluff talk) has been established.
Women want to sleep with me because they find me attractive, smart, and hella interesting. And thats just something they would like to surround themselves with. And sleeping with me, or directly contributing to my life is the only way that they can do that. I don't worry about saying sexual things, or being overly sexual because its not necessary. It does work however, but anything with confidence will work.
The problem here is that you don't understand your value or what makes you attractive to the opposite sex. You're caught up in something that women aren't paying much attention to. A woman cares more about what you think of her than she does about what she thinks of you, and she cares more about what you think of yourself than she does about what she thinks about you. What she directly thinks about you is third, so long as you understand this and keep the conversation amongst the first two topics. She''ll weigh you against her own thoughts later on, but in that moment, when you're operating effectively she won't even be able to consider it.
You need to get more approaches under your belt. Try turbo approaching...Meaning, approach 5 women within the same 15 minutes. A lot of guys don't get hot, because the wait too much time before each approach. When you start knocking them out, you'll build up the momentum to close much easier.
These issues you're having will correct themselves as you get a bit more experience. Give yourself 2,000 more approaches and then come back and see if you're struggling with this still. You'll likely have moved on to the next sticking point.
Yeah your right that sounds like how it should be happening just organically but idk everything feels forced or planned to me maybe cuz of the overthinking but because I'm always thinking about stuff like if I make a move now will she think I'm thirsty or stuff. I'm gonna try doing approaches tho out of school and just out and about from my usual places. I wanted it to happen at school because i see the finest girls like big bootys young my age but idk I always worry about things like that. And thats just the beginning stuff I worry about going back to school late cuz I'm 23 rn and not having a car and stuff. Which I know shouldn't be that big of a deal but it occurs to me. But imma try that multiple approach thing. Thanks for the feedback to all of you....much appreciated!