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I'm currently having a lot of trouble attracting women, at all. I recently got out of a relationship that took a psychological toll on me and threw me into some seriously self-destructive habits. One of which is an incessant need for a rebound. As you can imagine, it hasn't been going well for me. I've probably had five different girls that have shown initial interest that cooled off. In fact, while out last night, a friend's fling mentioned she wouldn't "hook me up" with her friend because she deserves better than a "fuck boy." Clearly her perception of me is that I am on the rebound, looking for something casual and without strings attached, and somewhere in there is the communication that I see women as sexual objects for my own gratification and disposal. It's become clear I'm not in the right state of mind. I definitely have been pursuing women in a more liberal, skip the qualifying them and let's hook up, manner. Which essentially means my standards have dropped through the floor. I've thought about ways to readjust my inner game and possibly my circulating reputation, and have concluded that I need to take a step back from the intention of hooking up with anyone until this neediness wears off. I'm not sure if that means beginning to treat women as friends, or valuing my interactions with them whether it leads to something more or not, or what. I just need a solution to whatever I'm doing now, which seems to be driving women away, and I think on some level women are sensing my willingness to get physical. It's not a good look.
Your problem is that you have a realy bad analization skill. Try to analize situations differently and only on the moment, forget about what happening, when you see a girl try to make a strategy to pick her up, be calm, relaxed, confident and take it slowly.
Does'nt matter what womens think or not, if they like you for the moment or not, just talk with them and that's all, and stop making so bad analization because you just hit yourself.