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I think I'm posting this in the right section.
So...I've been speaking to this girl for a while now roughly a month we've met had sex done all that but she confuses the fuck out of me. So here's how it began, we met on tinder and i do my usual routine I wait two days to build comfort then ask them to meet which had worked out pretty well recently. So I did it with this girl she agreed to meet but couldn't that day because she was with her best friend, so I said bring her with you I have a close buddy who has just got out of a shit relationship and could do with cheering up. So they both come down we drink have a good night etc... Then I ask her to come over a different night without her friend and she does again everything goes well.
We speak everyday have a laugh, yet over text she always seems distant and in person she's very affectionate, fun and I just know where I stand with her yet over text I feel myself getting needy because I'm not getting the response I want like I know I get in person. I'm not a needy person and since I broke with my ex I have found it hard to be affectionate with anyone properly until this girl. I'm not saying I want a relationship or anything but I don't want it to just end here and there. She's told me several times her head is fucked at the moment with other family issues but... After a day she's fine again. Then tonight she went on a night out and when she got home she messaged me... Saying how her head is fucked and how it isn't fair on me, so I said that's fine that's all I wanted to know and left her to it. Should I just leave it at that or speak again in the morning I'm a little confused at the moment I do like this girl... More than the others I've slept with but I can't decide if I've fucked it up been needy or not. Any reply or words of wisdom or even telling me to man up would help right now. Anyway rant over.
Peace Ap
The way that she's treating you is EXACTLY why you're experiencing feelings for her, and is EXACTLY what you should be doing to her.
Communicate (preferably subcommunicate) that you're busy, that you have other options/priorities, and actually go chase those other options