So I have no problems getting a date or talking to a girl. Feel like I can hold my own there. The trouble starts when I want to escalate. I have absolutely no idea how. I often just wait until the end of a date when its "expected" and try to lay a kiss on her - this does not work well obviously because there has been nothing leading up to it other than words.

Kino does not come naturally to me - I really need some advice on how to integrate it with a conversation cos at the moment I'd probably just start stroking their arms like a chump with no words to back it up. Just need some ideas on how to get physical without being weird.