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Author:  carlosbit [ Thu Nov 20, 2014 6:24 pm ]
Post subject:  I cant keep a conversation after opening
Hey guys,

I'm a newbie in what comes to PUA and i've got a SP in what comes to keep a conversation after opening...sometimes I can keep a good flow on the conversation, but I've got many cases where I approach and she's receptive to me but after talking for about 2 minutes about things that are not that much interesting, either I eject or if i try to stay and not eject nothing comes to my mind to talk about.

So what I'm asking here is for some tips/routines/good things to talk about where she can say something that I can grab to keep a conversation going :)
Author:  _Lothario_ [ Fri Nov 21, 2014 1:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
Find common interest and explore that more.

Compliment her.

Ask if she's a good dancer and to show you what her "move" is.


Kill the convo and vacate to come back later. (time constraint) Sometimes the conversation just dies.

Self amuse.

Instead of talking about yourself, ask her about something relative to what you would say if you were talking about yourself. I have a horrible dirty sense of humor. I'd ask her "So do you have a horrible dirty sense of humor, or are you turned off by that?"

If not a compliment, tell her something you observe about her, and ask her something based on it. "You're very articulate. I bet you had a proper upbringing. You were the rich bratty one growing up, weren't you?" It's like a playful cold read.

Escalate sooner.

Vacate with target.

There are lots of places you can go if conversation gets stale. If there is no connection, it's best you just move on and get back to her later. Not every set gets closed. Sometimes you should legit just not be interested by the end of it. Some people just suck no matter what. It's a joke really.
Author:  alikeableone [ Fri Nov 21, 2014 2:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
Quote:
Kill the convo and vacate to come back later. (time constraint) Sometimes the conversation just dies.
I think that's the easiest one for newbies. I usually don't stick with a set until it's pretty late (like 1,2 AM), since I'm out with friends and don't want to be the predatory douche just running around picking up. Also it's just alot of fun to hang out with my friends. Mostly I just open sets when getting drinks or when I get bored, stay for a couple of minutes and build and build rapport during the night till something sticks.
Author:  carlosbit [ Fri Nov 21, 2014 6:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
And how about daygame conversation? I'm more into daygaming since I only go out at night 1-2 times per week.

I see most of your advice in a nightgaming environment!
Author:  Dragula [ Fri Nov 21, 2014 7:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
day game wise for me, i just get the number and get the fuck out of there.

I have had insta dates and long stimulating conversations and yet they still flake, I have had 10 second phone numbers that also flake but got quite a few dates with being the quick phantom type of guy...
Author:  carlosbit [ Sun Nov 23, 2014 3:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
I always try what @_Lothario_ said: "Find common interest and explore that more" but i find it to be hard when you're opening a set during the day...what can I say or ask so she opens herself a little bit more and tells me something that I can use to keep conversating?
Author:  Unrelenting Ambition [ Mon Nov 24, 2014 2:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
Ask her simple questions like what does she do on the weekends for fun

or

Ask her if she is a cat person or a dog person, likes coffee, etc and go from there

It's not so much about what you ask as much as it is about how you ask, the vibe you're giving off, and whether she's available at the given moment.

Peace,

Unrelenting Ambition
Author:  carlosbit [ Mon Nov 24, 2014 9:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
Quote:
It's not so much about what you ask as much as it is about how you ask, the vibe you're giving off
Any expert PUA confirms this? If an awkward silence happens i think it's weird to ask something outta nowhere or at least that's how I feel in such a moment :(
Author:  Unrelenting Ambition [ Tue Nov 25, 2014 12:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
If you keep at it, sooner than later you'll start seeing what I mentioned come true.

The best way I can explain this is by a saying I have.

"It's only weird if you make it"

You can literally get away with saying just about anything you want and as long as you truly, deep down don't think it's weird, it won't be and she won't perceive it to be. (As long as you're not a delusional weirdo who can't read basic social cues)

On the other hand, if you think asking her how her day is going is weird, it's going to be and you're going to weird her out.

P.s. Awkward silences are the best, you can build so much anticipation and sexual tension within them

Peace,

UA
Author:  Dr. Spargenator [ Wed Nov 26, 2014 5:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
If you want to keep the conversation going, women love talking about themselves, and how THEIR day is going. If you want to fuck her you need to get her to qualify herself so that you can show interest and then move on to comfort, which I'm still working on.
Author:  carlosbit [ Wed Nov 26, 2014 9:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
So trying to put her talking about herself as soon as possible after opening is the way to go?
Author:  Dragula [ Wed Nov 26, 2014 10:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I cant keep a conversation after opening
Yes, and it will perfectly natural for a girl that is interested in you to say "what about you?"
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