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Author:  Ream [ Wed Oct 08, 2014 6:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Rejections
Hi,

Just some advice please. I have been with some very hot girls in my life and have always had good natural game but I get rejected so much. From asking girls out on Facebook that I've met to real life situations and I just can't handled it. I'm either bedded one girl or tongue kissed every month for last 18 months, but get rejected so much. Like 9/10 times I'll be rejected. Why the fuck is this? I would be able to handle it if I didn't meet very hot girls but I do. But I just don't feel it, I think I must be ugly too.

Help on inner game would be good, cos every rejection I take personally that its my looks. I'm very insecure now. I never used to be.

Please help :)
Author:  puaninja [ Wed Oct 08, 2014 6:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Rejections
Somebody once told me something so simple, but it really helped me keep things in perspective. "Not everyone will like you."

Mull that over for a while. Not everyone will like you. It doesn't imply something is wrong with you. There very well may be, or perhaps not. They may not like you for a million different reasons. You won't know for sure what their reasons are nor can you control why that is. The only thing you need to concern yourself with is the acceptance of the fact that you won't win them all. Some people just won't like you.

Most people who are not 9s or better have self-image issues. I do, that's for sure. But you can't change your face or your receding hairline. Maybe you can clean up and slim down and put on nice clothes, but there's limits to how much you can improve your image. Yes, you physically won't be some girls type. You'll get rejected. It'll sting. You'll be jealous of guys who end up getting those girls. But you are also a man, remember that. And you have the strength of character to soldier on and keep gaming girls and being successful in your own right.
Author:  Ream [ Wed Oct 08, 2014 7:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Rejections
Thanks. I just hate the fact someone doesn't think I'm good looking. I need to work seriously on this
Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Wed Oct 08, 2014 8:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Rejections
This is why outcome dependence is what kills most intermediate guys. You're not a noob, yet the constant rejection makes you feel like a virgin. You need to learn to stop giving a fuck. You don't need positive feedback to know you are attractive. Leave that to Facebook sluts and tumblr girls.

In the 13 years I have been sexually active, I've been rejected thousands of times, but I have lost count of the number of girls I have banged.

Embrace rejection. Laugh about it. Learn from it. If a stranger's opinion affects you that badly, you don't truly love yourself. If I walk into a bar and it's 10pm with nobody on the dance floor, I go straight to the dance floor and dance by myself. Then I drag groups of people to dance with me. Be a fun magnet and a fun creator. If you give value, girls will want to know you.

Your problem right now is you get a rejection and another and another,... and each one hurts your feelings and slowly chips away at your confidence. We talk about social momentum when we approach... Open a set, bounce to another set, use the next set to introduce you to another set etc. But you have the opposite. Your reaction to getting rejected makes you less confident in the next set. The next set senses your insecurity and rejects you. And so on.

You need to get your confidence up to a level where YOU create your own self image and you don't care if people think you are attractive or not. Imagine you get up on the runway and every girl in the crowd boos and says you're ugly. If that's me I would carry on with a smile on my face. Luckily for us men, we are not judged as much for our looks as women. Our value comes from our attitude. A rough ugly bald dude with solid game will always do better with women than the pretty boy model who is needy and outcome dependent.
Author:  JJoj [ Thu Oct 09, 2014 4:37 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Rejections
Outcome independence kills me more than outcome dependence... if I have abundance mentality, I get more girls, but percentage wise, I don't do nearly as well as when I go after one girl at a time.
Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Thu Oct 09, 2014 10:45 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Rejections
That's not outcome independence. That's just lack of persistence and lack of killer instinct.
Author:  JJoj [ Thu Oct 09, 2014 1:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Rejections
Quote:
That's not outcome independence. That's just lack of persistence and lack of killer instinct.
I'm pretty sure that abundance mentality includes outcome independence... doesn't it..? You can be persistent with abundance mentality, and what is killer instinct....
Author:  Dragula [ Thu Oct 09, 2014 1:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Rejections
Quote:
Hi,

Just some advice please. I have been with some very hot girls in my life and have always had good natural game but I get rejected so much. From asking girls out on Facebook that I've met to real life situations and I just can't handled it. I'm either bedded one girl or tongue kissed every month for last 18 months, but get rejected so much. Like 9/10 times I'll be rejected. Why the fuck is this? I would be able to handle it if I didn't meet very hot girls but I do. But I just don't feel it, I think I must be ugly too.

Help on inner game would be good, cos every rejection I take personally that its my looks. I'm very insecure now. I never used to be.

Please help :)
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