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Author:  LimboIsReal [ Sun Sep 14, 2014 9:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Stuck In Midgame (Omegle Field Test)
Hello everyone, I'm stuck in midgame. I've perceived this much before, but even though I just wanted to try some charisma over omegle, where I could shit and just don't care. Obviously, it had no kino, nothing like this, only an exchange of words, but it's all about the part where I'm with trouble: words, topics, conversation. I dunno what to say during the midgame.

I dunno how to be the Cocky Funny Guy, I'm kinda introvert, so I freeze, and I just start saying random things in the need of letting the conversation be alive. It's like, I don't let the conversation die, instead it just becomes a zombie - dragging itself with no danm motivation, only up for it's not down - something like that. Uhm, so any tips, please, help me out. I'm not interesting enough to keep a conversation going, my mind is blank when it comes to socialize.

So here's a more detailed history of a conversation that went wrong, if u wanna check for errors.

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File comment: Something is very fucked up in this conversation, I can feel it. It's like I just started to act like a fucking moron during the end of this conversation. That's what I meant by getting "stuck". it's just that I didn't know what to talk about, my mind was blank. I'm a very, very newbie here.
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Author:  LimboIsReal [ Mon Sep 15, 2014 10:18 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck In Midgame (Omegle Field Test)
Thx dude. Well, actually I was on omegle to get a report on my midgame before going out for some more real field and just fuck it up with the same problem you've seen.

The midgame has been my sticking point for long, not only im Omegle and virtual chats, but everywhere. I'm one of these AFCs that likes to be around excentric people, these funny ones, because that's the only way I can take a good laugh. I know I'm supposed to be that guy, but I just don't have the criativity to be the Cocky & Funny, teasing guy.

I need some advice on how to figure out a way to figure that out. I don't know what to talk and neither when. That's why conversationa just die.
The M or F stuff was only to spare me from hitting on a random guy. All I actually wanted was a report on midgame.
Author:  driftwood [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 3:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck In Midgame (Omegle Field Test)
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I'm one of these AFCs that likes to be around excentric people, these funny ones, because that's the only way I can take a good laugh. I know I'm supposed to be that guy, but I just don't have the criativity to be the Cocky & Funny, teasing guy.
You're wrong. You do have the creativity to be that guy because I just saw you do it in your screen cap and you did it TOO MUCH. I know you maybe like that sort of humor but please realize that when you do so much of it, it makes you look like a weirdo. It's just completely unnatural to be so zany and change topics so often. It makes no sense. When the girl was saying she didn't understand you, I was thinking the exact same thing. I didn't understand you either. And I'm a pua and know you're trying to do cocky funny attraction material but I STILL didn't understand you.

Just one screen of that funny stuff is enough. You think you're getting stuck in midgame but you're not. You're getting stuck in early game because you never make a move to move onto midgame.

When you asked her about where she lived, that was good. You need to do more of that. After you've hooked her with the funny stuff, move on to getting to know you stuff. Txting is kinda different than real life so you can move to rapport building much sooner and challenging the girl isn't as important. Get to know about her so that you can figure out what to talk to her about. If you don't know what she is like, you aren't going to know what to talk to her about.

Here is a very important thing to know about the rapport phase. Obviously you want her to feel a lot of rapport with you. The way to do this is not to ask a lot of questions about her. Asking questions is ok but that will not make her feel connected to you - it will make you feel connected to her. What you want to do is talk about yourself. Talking about yourself and your beleifs and your feelings is what will make her feel connected to you. After you've asked her about herself, then you find something about yourself that relates to whatever it is that she believes is important in what she told you about herself.

Does this make sense?
Author:  LimboIsReal [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 7:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck In Midgame (Omegle Field Test)
Thanks guy for the advice, it makes a lot of sense what you talked. I'll try the rapport next time, I will try to improve those.

Here's the thing:
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You're wrong. You do have the creativity to be that guy because I just saw you do it in your screen cap and you did it TOO MUCH.
Maybe you're right, what you said makes sense, but here's the thing: I don't know much how to sound clever. I am very afraid from transpassing the boundaries between self-confidence and exhibitionism, from a negging to arrogance. I'm so afraid of blowing it all up, and just my opportunities as a student to know new girls are more than rare. I live inside a programmed routine I can't do much about it...

And another sticking point is when I ask someone something. I don't know if I was really able to figure something out this time, but most of them I just don't know how to react to her answer. It's like: "Where you from? From England. Oh, cool". Instead of just saying "Oh, cool" and standing there for one hour in silence, I just tried to make some fun of it. But that's my problem, I don't know what to say about it, because I don't care where she lives, only if she lived next to me.

About the rapport phase. Yeah, makes sense. I've seen it working. With me, for example. Just a shame all girls I've made rapport with just slowly slipped away from me. I felt like they were just being polite.

I feel like shit. I wanna change it.

Thanks, dude!
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