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| Author: | H.P.Lovecraft [ Tue Aug 26, 2014 10:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | So in my head... |
It's been really shitty lately. I'm just getting into this, and I was doing really well. I had my first opener a couple weeks ago and used the opinion opener on a whole bunch of girls, but there were a couple things that stood out. I couldn't muster up the courage to do it at night and I would always leave right after the opener because I was terrified The openers would work great, and I would get positive responses from everyone, but I wanted to leave right away. I think it was because it was a canned line and my mind just didn't know where to go from there. I also always got super nervous doing them at night and would always pussy out. This past weekend I went up to Canada with the intention of working some game real hard, but I ended up bitching out every night. So now I'm back and feel like complete shit. I HAVE to get back out there, but I need to get out of my head. Should I take it slow and start from scratch again? Just doing small openers and working my way up from there? Or do I just go balls deep and start direct openers? I feel like this is more for me, but I just don't get what is acceptable and what isn't. What is the mindset you have to have when thinking of direct openers? Any advice will do, I really need to start getting back into it! |
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| Author: | Mastermind9000 [ Wed Aug 27, 2014 2:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So in my head... |
Do whatever gets you talking to people. Run up and stop a hb10 in the street, chat up some old ladies, talk to so loners at the bar. All useful, if you do it. The goal is to be generally more talkative. |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Thu Aug 28, 2014 3:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So in my head... |
There are several threads here on overcoming AA - and that's exactly what you have. I would recommend searching for them... Every single guy who's been through the PUA mill has had AA. Anyone who says they didn't is lying. Many still do. I still do sometimes. It's the most daunting thing there is about learning this art. That may be because a lot of guys who decide to get into it are introverts and fed up with being the 'nice guy who never gets the girl' - so they want to make a change. Sounds like that's what you are. You want to get out there and do it, you just can't, or you pussy out. We've all done that. You need to just count to 3 and do it, before you can think of a reason not to do it. Don't wait for tomorrow... Go for a walk right now. Talk to girls you see on the street. You don't have to even hit on them or ask them out. Just talk to them, or say hi and smile... Baby steps. Move from 'hi' and smiling, to asking them how they're doing, or if they know of a good place to eat... Then start being funny. Asking for their number... I'd challenge you to talk to 10 girls today on the street. 15 tomorrow. 20 on Saturday... And so on. |
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| Author: | H.P.Lovecraft [ Sun Aug 31, 2014 3:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So in my head... |
GREAT weekend! Started on Thursday, had 15 minute conversations with 2 girls on the subway and number closed one. Friday went out and opened 3 sets and talked to one for the entire night and number closed. Went out Saturday night and opened 2 sets talking to each for over an hour. Feels good to get out and actually do this stuff. I'm not putting too much pressure on myself to get a number or K close every time cause that's when I start over thinking. Just taking it one step at a time... |
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| Author: | threadstarter [ Sun Sep 14, 2014 6:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So in my head... |
Good job. You've probably realized that only about 1/10 girls will actually be a bitch. Most will be nice and respect you for having the balls even if they reject you. There's some motivation for you! |
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