If you approach her warm (shes aware of you or you even had eye contact), the first couple of seconds she will screen you. During that phase its crucial that you have good confident body language (BL). Of course you do not know what to talk about because you do not know er and neither does she. So what do you do? You GET to know her. Start off with something that kept your mind busy recently and you think she might be interested in that or maybe has a solution for whatever problem you were thinking about. If shes not picking up the topic try another topic. After 3-4 attempts, if you sense that shes not interested (you will sense that) you can start talking to her friends or just wish her a nice evening and walk off to the next princess.
I also used really stupid starters just to see if it matters, like "hey I got myself a new snowboard.". It does not matter :)
If you do a cold approach (she has not seen you before) then the first 1-2 minutes shes like "who is this guy and why is he talking to me?". Do not go in with a question like "Hey, you want to come with me for a dance?". Instead, walk towards her or them, put your glass on the table as if you just left a couple of minutes ago to get a fresh drink and once they look at you, with total confidence say something like "You know whats really funny? I just ordered a gin tonic but instead she made me some tequila mixed stuff... and charged less than its worth. I hate tequila, but I must admit that I actually like this drink. Whats in your glass..?" Blah, blah. Do not speak too fast and give her at least 30 secs to look at your BL.
By talking you give her the extra time she needs to screen you. Do look in her eyes, but not all the time. Also look away (or at her friends. Never look at their bodies or hers! That would give her the impression that you screen her as well. If you master that, you will be able to play with whatever part of her body later :) as if you speak to a buddy and use your hands to make gestures. By doing so, you give her the opportunity to also look at the rest of your body without being "caught" by you, this will help you a lot. Just keep talking until you notice she keeps on looking at your eyes more, then you also keep on looking at her eyes while making a swift transition from your monologue to a dialogue. To do this you can gradually begin to throw a few questions towards her. If you manage to get her talking to you more than you talk to her you are on a good path. Just remember to be a good listener then.
You can prepare 2-3 topics that you use to approach girls at first, that will help you concentrating more on BL, but later you will be able to forge a story when you are already walking towards her. However, take care not to be boring. Be fun.
That should get you started.
Best,
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I don't want to bore her (no explicit girl on my mind) by asking her question she's answered billions of time; like: What are your hobbies, which university are you going to etc.