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Author:  leno [ Sat Dec 21, 2013 11:16 am ]
Post subject:  Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Hey guys,

I'll keep it short! I usually go for 8's 9's and 10's only however I get some attention from 6's and 7's but hesitate to take things further as in the past I've had problems with low quality girls (i.e. 6's and 7's) getting clingy/stalking me etc.

So, occasionally if I don't manage to pull 8+, there are 6's and 7's readily available lol!

Here's my question: What are the best ways to get rid of girls you have a one night stand (or a very short fling) with? It's only a problem with 6's and 7's...never had a problem with 8+ in that regard

I've noticed this is something no PUA talks about (even in the books!).

Thanks
Author:  Redlight [ Sat Dec 21, 2013 6:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Hey man, I can relate to your question, as I used to have the same problem with ONS before I started studying pick-up. I would have the once-a-year ONS and she would get all clingy and wanting to be my GF. I may have not promised or hinted at the possibility to start a relationship, but I was communicating non-verbally that I was "BF material" or the poster-boy "nice-guy". This opens the way for a few questions....

Why do women have ONS? I can only see a few reasons:
1. sexual pleasure/fun
2. thrill of doing something new or "wrong"
3. filling emotional void
4. getting back at a cheating BF
5. trying to secure the affection of a guy

Who are they likely to have the ONS for the above reasons?
- 1&2 with a player/ladies man/PUA
- 3&4 with anybody that is available, regardless of pick-up skills
- 5 with a guy they perceive as "high value" or "BF material"

When are they likely to get clingy and needy? Mostly in circumstances 3&5. Now this is not a science, it's just observation of human nature.

I noticed after starting the study of pick-up and the subsequent transformation that I was moving from situations 3, 4, 5 to 1 and 2 and that out of the blue, the targets would not even hint at a future relationship. How did that happen? I chalk it up to my change of attitude. I was never one of those guys that make promises to their targets or hint at a future together to get them in the sack. Always felt that it is dishonest and wrong. So it must have been my old self, typical nice guy with nice clothes, a nice car and nice career prospects that attracted needy girls with low esteem like honey does to flies. When I changed my "persona" to a playerish type, things changed. Targets were now attracted physically to me but didn't see me as a "bring home to mom" kind of guy.

I went pretty far with my transformation, now I have a muscular body, I am heavily tattooed, I drive a classic convertible and dress in a garish manner. This attracts the party girl types but also "good girls". What it does not is make me seem "BF material"... even the "good girls" sometimes leave my apartment the next day without asking for my phone number... which is the solution to your problem...

In terms of behaviour, avoid talking about future plans with her, tell them that you will be soon leaving the city or country, make it obvious in a gentle way that there is no future for a relationship between you. Be fun and adventurous, make them do crazy things that they wouldn't do with a boyfriend. I had sex on the hood of my car with a chick that was recently out of a relationship in front of her parents house. She's now back with the guy but remembers fondly our night together...

With regards to having the problem only with the 6s or 7s, I have noticed that when the "value difference" is high, the less likely the chicks are to become needy/clingy. It's like they are aware that they have no chance with the guy, so then they just enjoy the ONS.

I hope my long post helps...
Author:  leno [ Sat Dec 28, 2013 11:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Some good points here - thanks man!
Author:  Warmth [ Thu Jan 02, 2014 8:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Quote:
Hey guys,

I'll keep it short! I usually go for 8's 9's and 10's only however I get some attention from 6's and 7's but hesitate to take things further as in the past I've had problems with low quality girls (i.e. 6's and 7's) getting clingy/stalking me etc.

So, occasionally if I don't manage to pull 8+, there are 6's and 7's readily available lol!

Here's my question: What are the best ways to get rid of girls you have a one night stand (or a very short fling) with? It's only a problem with 6's and 7's...never had a problem with 8+ in that regard

I've noticed this is something no PUA talks about (even in the books!).

Thanks
Well, this isn´t healthy advice but just distance yourself emotionally. I.e. if you roll away after finishing fucking her, she will get the point.

It´s kind of the reverse of letting a woman know you want to fuck her before doing it: now you just let her know you don´t. You need to be very clear about what you want to get what you want.

My healthy advice: appreciate every girl and just say that you enjoyed fucking them and would like to do it again.
Author:  leno [ Wed Jan 08, 2014 1:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Some good advice here too (depends on the kind of chick you apply it to, I suppose...). It's just strange that no PUA/books talk about this issue...getting rid of ONS and flings is sometimes more difficult than seduction itself lol
Author:  tipicall [ Thu Jan 09, 2014 8:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
I don't get rid of them I use them for some more dirty sex till they withdraw ...or right after the sex just tell her I gotta leave early tomorrow So you go for round 2 and after round 2 you tell her you will really have to wake up early tomorrow and go for round 3 if she intends to be your wife you will see lol and then try making her suck for long or something that's obvious she is being owned tonight and right after that boldly ask her if she wanna rest for a bit before you call a cab for her.if she came with her own car ask her about her car keys ...if she ask you if you wanna get rid of her tell her .. I really gotta wake up early tomorrow.
That's how I do it

Or if she is from the suburbs I don't cuddle with her I look up the internet with her for her train connection right after the sex ...most at times they ask if the sex was good at this moment ...I don't answer I just gaze in her eye and ignore the question
Author:  leno [ Sun Mar 23, 2014 10:53 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
That sounds a bit mean lol. Edinburgh (Scotland) is a small city with just a handful of good clubs with high quality girls that I tend to frequent regularly so don't wana get a bad rep for being a complete dick to girls. Anyways, I wouldn't feel good about using these sorts of tactics.

I recently met an advanced player (from USA) who gave me 2 really amazing tips (hope this helps others):

1. "Power of assumption" - just "assume" right from the start of the interaction that this is just going to be a ONS or a quick fling...that way you are projecting and communicating your intentions and feelings at a subconscious level to the girl and everything you do/say will reflect that. This is an amazing tip which could be used in other situations (e.g. even when approaching girl(s) - just "assume" rapport)! - It really "primes" the girl beforehand.

2. "Power of honesty - when applied correctly" (not being cheesy here LOL!) - Just be "honest" afterwards and say something like "you're such a great girl and I can't see myself settling down with one girl any time soon and I don't want to get attached to you or mess you around so...let's just be friends" - or something along those lines

These tactics work for me - hope it helps others :)

thanks for the replies guys!
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Apr 08, 2014 6:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
I felt so bad last night for having this one night stand, the following day I got another one for the other side of the bed.
Author:  Karlb [ Fri Apr 11, 2014 10:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
If it's evening/night (which it usually is after a fling) I'll yawn a few times and maybe thirty seconds later I'll cuddle her and say, "Let's lay here for a bit and enjoy cuddling. I'll walk you to your car in a few minutes but let's cuddle first."
Author:  Digital_Spy [ Fri Apr 11, 2014 10:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Here's an idea. Why not keep your needle dick in your pants AND NOT get with girls you think are beneath you and not as fucking great as good ole fucking you? Why lose your dignity just to get laid and then frantically worry your stupid, fucking egotistical head off wondering how to get rid of them. Don't you like yourself? Don't you have any fucking respect for yourself? Are you such a desperate fucking, needy cunt that you reluctantly take girls home to fuck and then want to shove them out the door and btw, if you have pulled HB8 and over, why can't you keep them? Why do you have to lower yourself to a snake's belly to get girls that are lesser than you? You are a fucking, horrible individual who uses girls to make you feel better about yourself which makes you yet another fucking loser on here.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Apr 12, 2014 7:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Quote:
Here's an idea. Why not keep your needle dick in your pants AND NOT get with girls you think are beneath you and not as fucking great as good ole fucking you? Why lose your dignity just to get laid and then frantically worry your stupid, fucking egotistical head off wondering how to get rid of them. Don't you like yourself? Don't you have any fucking respect for yourself? Are you such a desperate fucking, needy cunt that you reluctantly take girls home to fuck and then want to shove them out the door and btw, if you have pulled HB8 and over, why can't you keep them? Why do you have to lower yourself to a snake's belly to get girls that are lesser than you? You are a fucking, horrible individual who uses girls to make you feel better about yourself which makes you yet another fucking loser on here.
I think the girls are just using OP for his penis. He's just a piece of schublig to them; nothing more, nothing less. The uglies stalk him because they wanted more of his cock inside their wet, pulsating pussies.
Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Sat Apr 12, 2014 9:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Digital I see you are back on form! The anger and frustration in your posts never ceases to amaze me. I guess your girlfriend never puts out.

Have a wank, seriously. Release some tension.
Author:  Suit & Tie [ Sat Apr 12, 2014 11:30 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Quote:
Digital I see you are back on form! The anger and frustration in your posts never ceases to amaze me. I guess your girlfriend never puts out.

Have a wank, seriously. Release some tension.
You mean flick her bean man. She's obviously a chick.
Author:  leno [ Sun Apr 13, 2014 9:09 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
Quote:
Here's an idea. Why not keep your needle dick in your pants AND NOT get with girls you think are beneath you and not as fucking great as good ole fucking you? Why lose your dignity just to get laid and then frantically worry your stupid, fucking egotistical head off wondering how to get rid of them. Don't you like yourself? Don't you have any fucking respect for yourself? Are you such a desperate fucking, needy cunt that you reluctantly take girls home to fuck and then want to shove them out the door and btw, if you have pulled HB8 and over, why can't you keep them? Why do you have to lower yourself to a snake's belly to get girls that are lesser than you? You are a fucking, horrible individual who uses girls to make you feel better about yourself which makes you yet another fucking loser on here.
PMSL...Brilliant! Why are you so bitter? LOL
Author:  Xian3Blue [ Sun Apr 13, 2014 9:44 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting rid of One Night Stands or flings
kick them out after you have sex with them OR leave their place straight after.

don't give them number if they don't ask for it or any contact details

if you end up doing this just text them very VERY rarely back and ignore most of the boring shit they text you ...

I wouldn't be a dick and just ignore everything though. And genuinly has better things to do after i fuck em so i just say i'm busy have to go do x thing.

last but not least - NEVER CUDDLE
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