PUA Forum :: How To Create A Emotional Connection

Emotional connection is not the problem.

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I think the problem I have is properly creating a emotional connection. I have the attraction(girls chase after me and say or change themselves to please me) and I build rapport (finding similarity) but in the end the girl tells me she just wants to be friends. I add sex into our conversations all the time they respond positively but I just cant get girls attached/addicted to me so that she is in love. So Im thinking its because Im not making a emotional anchor if so tell me how and if not what am I missing?

That's the problem.

Similarity, isopraxism or mirroring builds liking. Liking builds friendship bonds.

What you need to try is break rapport and showcase your dissimilarities. Opposites attract in very sexual terms. Sexual attraction leads to romantic love.

You also need to create intrusive thinking in girls. This is the "He loves me, he loves me not" syndrome.

If you're always there for the girl, you were never a challenge. She knows you will always be there. If you reject her requests and give in at random, then you create intrusive thinking.

If you disappear for one week or two weeks and have no contact with your girls whatsoever, your girls will go into intrusive thinking mode. Give girls the gift of missing you and they will give you the gifts of warm, wet pussies. Use the principle of scarcity and you'll go places in pick up.

If girls ask you who's the girl you're with, and instead of answering, "She's just a friend, blah, blah, blah," you simply just change the topic, then you will trigger a girl's intrusive thinking mode.

You also need to give girls an emotional roller coaster ride. If you're always agreeable and fun to be around, then you can never spike intense attraction. Show some anger, annoyance or frustration and girls will begin to appreciate the times when you're so much fun and agreeable.

Sometimes, emotional connection can be overrated when you just want to fuck. If you want to fuck, inject some tension into your sarges and girls will gladly have sex with you to diffuse the tension. It does not have to be sexual tension but emotional tension.

Author:	AFC Chump [ Tue Apr 23, 2013 11:00 pm ]
Post subject:	How To Create A Emotional Connection
I think the problem I have is properly creating a emotional connection. I have the attraction(girls chase after me and say or change themselves to please me) and I build rapport (finding similarity) but in the end the girl tells me she just wants to be friends. I add sex into our conversations all the time they respond positively but I just cant get girls attached/addicted to me so that she is in love. So Im thinking its because Im not making a emotional anchor if so tell me how and if not what am I missing?

Author:	Monsignor Crisanto [ Wed Apr 24, 2013 6:44 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How To Create A Emotional Connection
Emotional connection is not the problem. Quote: I think the problem I have is properly creating a emotional connection. I have the attraction(girls chase after me and say or change themselves to please me) and I build rapport (finding similarity) but in the end the girl tells me she just wants to be friends. I add sex into our conversations all the time they respond positively but I just cant get girls attached/addicted to me so that she is in love. So Im thinking its because Im not making a emotional anchor if so tell me how and if not what am I missing? That's the problem. Similarity, isopraxism or mirroring builds liking. Liking builds friendship bonds. What you need to try is break rapport and showcase your dissimilarities. Opposites attract in very sexual terms. Sexual attraction leads to romantic love. You also need to create intrusive thinking in girls. This is the "He loves me, he loves me not" syndrome. If you're always there for the girl, you were never a challenge. She knows you will always be there. If you reject her requests and give in at random, then you create intrusive thinking. If you disappear for one week or two weeks and have no contact with your girls whatsoever, your girls will go into intrusive thinking mode. Give girls the gift of missing you and they will give you the gifts of warm, wet pussies. Use the principle of scarcity and you'll go places in pick up. If girls ask you who's the girl you're with, and instead of answering, "She's just a friend, blah, blah, blah," you simply just change the topic, then you will trigger a girl's intrusive thinking mode. You also need to give girls an emotional roller coaster ride. If you're always agreeable and fun to be around, then you can never spike intense attraction. Show some anger, annoyance or frustration and girls will begin to appreciate the times when you're so much fun and agreeable. Sometimes, emotional connection can be overrated when you just want to fuck. If you want to fuck, inject some tension into your sarges and girls will gladly have sex with you to diffuse the tension. It does not have to be sexual tension but emotional tension.

Author:	Jay (Majik) [ Wed Apr 24, 2013 8:31 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How To Create A Emotional Connection
Quote: I think the problem I have is properly creating a emotional connection. I have the attraction(girls chase after me and say or change themselves to please me) and I build rapport (finding similarity) but in the end the girl tells me she just wants to be friends. I add sex into our conversations all the time they respond positively but I just cant get girls attached/addicted to me so that she is in love. So Im thinking its because Im not making a emotional anchor if so tell me how and if not what am I missing? Humor... Start being funny. Talking seriously about sex when you are in a place that you can't have sex won't do any good. You can be playful and funny when you are talking about sexual related stuff but there is no point in trying to seduce her when you aren't in a place where it can physically happen. The importance of laughter is HUGE because of the connection it builds between people. Kino- Physical touch between two people is another way of building a very strong connection and feeling of comfort. Be a touchy type of guy and make it normal for her to be touched by you in the relationship. If she isn't comfortable with you touching her outside, she won't let you touch her inside. Compliance tests- Women seek an emotional connection with a MAN. Start throwing small compliance tests into your game and women will see you as someone who is more dominant. If you are more dominant out of the bed room, you will more than likely be more dominant in the bed room. Be an alpha male. If you want her to come near you say "Come here!" (again, be playful. Not a tough guy.) If she doesn't comply, neg her or give her an IOD. Add those 3 things to your game and you will see a drastic improvement.

Author:	worldrunner [ Thu Apr 25, 2013 9:00 am ]
Post subject:	Re: How To Create A Emotional Connection
Create a secret code that only you both know.. Talk about some secrets you both have... Talk about your fears... Talk about the important events in your life that have make you who you are... Moments in movies that make you cry... Play with her hands as much as possible... Remember no DHV is needed at this point... If you see that the conversation is going to a very wrong way... like getting really boring, or she almost starting to cry, yeah spark it with a little humor now and then. This part is about communicating to each other that there is no problem with having dark sides because you have each other to overcome it... If you do not do Kino at this point, or communicate to her that you want her as a sexual partner you'll have the risk to put yourself in the friend zone, not because of her but because it will become really difficult for you to escalate later... So if you are going to do this transition, do it in a place where you can be at least playing with her hands all the time.

Author:	AFC Chump [ Tue Apr 30, 2013 12:18 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How To Create A Emotional Connection
Quote: Emotional connection is not the problem. Quote: I think the problem I have is properly creating a emotional connection. I have the attraction(girls chase after me and say or change themselves to please me) and I build rapport (finding similarity) but in the end the girl tells me she just wants to be friends. I add sex into our conversations all the time they respond positively but I just cant get girls attached/addicted to me so that she is in love. So Im thinking its because Im not making a emotional anchor if so tell me how and if not what am I missing? That's the problem. Similarity, isopraxism or mirroring builds liking. Liking builds friendship bonds. What you need to try is break rapport and showcase your dissimilarities. Opposites attract in very sexual terms. Sexual attraction leads to romantic love. You also need to create intrusive thinking in girls. This is the "He loves me, he loves me not" syndrome. If you're always there for the girl, you were never a challenge. She knows you will always be there. If you reject her requests and give in at random, then you create intrusive thinking. If you disappear for one week or two weeks and have no contact with your girls whatsoever, your girls will go into intrusive thinking mode. Give girls the gift of missing you and they will give you the gifts of warm, wet pussies. Use the principle of scarcity and you'll go places in pick up. If girls ask you who's the girl you're with, and instead of answering, "She's just a friend, blah, blah, blah," you simply just change the topic, then you will trigger a girl's intrusive thinking mode. You also need to give girls an emotional roller coaster ride. If you're always agreeable and fun to be around, then you can never spike intense attraction. Show some anger, annoyance or frustration and girls will begin to appreciate the times when you're so much fun and agreeable. Sometimes, emotional connection can be overrated when you just want to fuck. If you want to fuck, inject some tension into your sarges and girls will gladly have sex with you to diffuse the tension. It does not have to be sexual tension but emotional tension. I have tried this once before and she is very nervous about simple sexual talk. For example, One day I was being sexual and she was uncomfortable. All I said was that I dont have sex until after 50 dates so i hope she was prepared (jokingly). I try to challenge her all the time and she does pretty well with it but she never challenges back she always apologizes every 2 seconds

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