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| Author: | sharpening claws [ Fri Mar 29, 2013 10:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | neediness paradox |
I have this issue of when I realise the set is hooking I go back to my nice guy behaviour in fear of "losing her". I also won't don't do high risk moves such as kissing if i think she's hooking in fear of messing it up.The same applies when I phone game. This paradox is one of the big reasons why my numbers flake so damn much.!!! |
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| Author: | skills360 [ Sat Mar 30, 2013 9:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: neediness paradox |
Hey dude the problem you have is typical with a lot of newbies, the reason is most newbies have scarcity mentality, attitude and behavior(in other words since they are new to seduction, they do not have an abundance of women, or have been with many women)... So they manifest and show scarcity type behavior which is very beta an unattractive. Also they play it safe cause they are scare of fucking things up. That make logical sense in your head, but unfortunately women are not logical they base their behavior on gut feeling. The behavior you show is what every other beta guy has show them, so they can not select you as the lover since you get screened out. They look at you as someone that is trying to please them and has not polarity so they can do whatever they want with you, its not very attractive behavior. Anyways, lets' talk about some solutions: 1.- Accept you will not get the girl(say to yourself i am not getting girl, i lost her, i am done) and work from that angle, in other words work backwards. ALWAYS REMEMBER TO GET A GIRL YOU MUST BE WILLING TO LOSE A GIRL. 2.- Have no filter, you, your actions, who you are, what you want to say is CONGRUENT(you are never in your head calculating anything... YOU HAVE NO FILTER, what she sees is what she gets. You talk to them like you talk to your close friends, the difference is the sexual vibe, and man to women, instead of friend to friend. 3.- Talk a bit less and escalate more. Escalation can be physical, verbal, and text... Sexual vibe with calibration.. 4. read my post: http://www.theskillsmethod.com/the-impo ... ng-sexual/ 5.- deprogram yourself stop saying to yourself, change your story, that bullshit about after i hook i go back to nice guy, change that story to i am always aggressive, no filter, i don't give a fuck, there are many women, if i don't get this one, there is another one. There is no failure just references experiences. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Sun Mar 31, 2013 4:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: neediness paradox |
Quote: There is no failure just references experiences.
This is the best piece of advice to give. Realizing that you HAVE this issue, now you just need to tell yourself to correct it. Your brain holds stories of past memories and will adjust your path if it is leading to a negative result. Example... First time your touched fire. You burned yourself. You don't touch fire anymore. Lesson learned. Now you can CONSCIOUSLY realize that hmmm... I keep turning into a pussy once I get the girl interested and then creep her out and lose her. Fuckin stop doing it. I had this problem before where I would start rubbing the back of my head once I was in set. It made me look goofy. I noticed something was off, then one day, I happened to be in a set that was facing a mirror and realized I was doing it. From there, I had to CONSCIOUSLY tell myself to NOT do that until it became natural for me to function with out doing it. Its subconscious dude. You now are conscious of what your subconscious is doing. So control it. |
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