I recently visited a city and slept with this woman who was definitely into me afterward--as in, we slept together that night at her place and then I took her back to my hotel in the morning and we did it again (if it had been bad, she wouldn't have come back for seconds). When I left, she stuck her tongue down my throat and acted sad to see me leave.

We had plans for her to visit me--granted, I live 4 hours away--over the coming weeks and the first few communications had her saying she "wished I was there," etc. I wasn't sure of the best way to keep things going and I think the biggest mistake I made was sending her a Valentine's Day present. It was gummi shot glasses--nothing too romantic, but I wonder if that seemed too boyfriendy?

I know better than to give gifts to women before I sleep with them or to even be too into them--but I figured since I had already slept with her, it was important to know that I didn't think of her as a just a lay, but cared enough about her to want to see her again.

Anyway, after a few weeks of emails and phone calls and texts every few days--not all the time, but enough to show I was still interested--she stopped responding.

I know this is a hard thing to pull off anyway, but wondering if anyone has advice for how keep options open with a woman who lives far away?

I am back in the city again for a few days and met this other woman last night who I kiss-closed but now have to leave again. Since we haven't slept together yet, it'd be a hard sell to get her to visit (expectations and all). But wondering how I can keep her warm for the next time I visit. Any advice?

Thanks

So you're saying go sexual despite only having kissed this last one?

I obviously want to keep up the intrigue and the heat, but if I take things further than we've actually gone, it might make her feel pressured to do something she hasn't made up her mind about yet.

Maybe subtle innuendo will work. But what frequency of communication?