It's not too difficult to be dominant in bed. Just treat her like she's there to be your sex toy. Don't ask her questions about what she'd prefer, because she does not want to be the one making decisions.. just physically move/reposition her where you want her to be and have a good time.

I hope for your sake that this girl is patient.. many older women are not and they will not put up with your lack of experience in this area. It is the man's job to be good in bed and you have a lot of learning to do. If this doesn't work out, then you need to go date a girl who's younger than you and practice this stuff.

Let's keep things simple: First, if you have a good time, then chances are that she will as well. As a general rule: If it feels good to you, then it probably feels good to her. Don't get too hung up on whether or not she orgasms.. just try different things and touch her all over... girls are more sensitive to touch than guys are so let your hands constantly wonder around her body during foreplay.

Second, after the initial make out period, get her clothes off (if you want, you can grind against her for a little while before the clothes come off.. it tends to turn girls on).

Third, you should still go down on her at least for a little while even though she's sensitive.. just avoid her clit (lick above it and around it). While you're doing this insert a finger and stroke her G-spot (upward come-hither motion - one or two fingers). If the licking isn't working out.. then keep going with your fingers.

G-spot: If she were on her hands and knees, and you inserted your thumb and pushed down, then you would hit your G-spot. Incidentally, that's a fun way to make a girl orgasm.. just push down on that spot and move your thumb in a circular motion (or just keep lifting up and pushing down on the spot.. depends on the girl). I usually hold her waste with my other arm while I'm doing this.. so you'd actually be facing away from her. Feel free to try that out.

Assuming you are hard and she is turned on, you should have her get on top of you and grind against your cock. Grab her hips and move her back and forth along your cock (if it feels good to you, then it'll feel good to her). This is a good way to get really sensitive girls to have clitoral orgasms.

Anytime you feel like it, you can reposition yourself or her so that your cock is near her mouth. It's a dominant and non-verbal way to say, "Hey, it'd be really cool if you sucked on my cock right now". Don't assume you have to finish, you can stop her anytime you want and move onto something different. This is a good thing to do for short periods if you start losing your stiffness.

Okay, that's all I got. Hopefully that will give you some tidbits to work with.

-Wolf

That was amazingly spot on! This should be read to every person on this site. I feel like this is where a lot of guys get strung up. It comes so natural when you're in the moment. It's just getting to this point a lot of guys get frustrated with.

Okay, time to talk about escalation (i.e. kino). Here's the link to Vin DeCarlo's escalation ladder. It starts with incidental touching and progresses up to heavy petting.. touching builds comfort and attraction.

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Click the link, there are step-by-step instructions and examples that show how to effectively escalate.

-Wolf

Is it still LMR if we are not at a seduction location? I'm certain if she was confident in my abilities or if I had more experience and was reading and responding to her better than I am, it would be different. She makes no secret that she loves sex. The LMR isn't about who I am, it is about her physical comfort with me.