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Author:  slaphappy [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 4:18 am ]
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I feel as though I have nothing to offer. I'm living with parents, friends all moved, and have a night job. I don't have that partying lifestye cause I don't drink or do drugs. What can I do to get the girl and new friends?
Author:  jabmaster [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 4:43 am ]
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Starting life from scratch... ohh man I've been there... it can be very frustrating but you have to do it anyway. So let's start with a good atittude.

First of all, if your job is not satisfying consider changing it ASAP.
Start new hobbies like exercise, dancing or any class where you can meet people your age, specially girls.
Try talking to anyone you cross path in the day.

And as for "nothing to offer"... to a girl your biggest assets are your personality and how you make her feel... you can start improving them today.
Author:  Sssnake [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 9:18 am ]
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Get a hobby that chicks will find adventurious.

Remember that the DHV routines are:
1)pre-chosen by other women
2)leader of men
3)defender of loved ones
4) willingness to emote

Things i say i do and usually blow out of proportion are:
- Dance classes (i took 1 in my life!!!)
- SCUBA
- Martial Arts
- fucking drama class or something

Sometimes i just use one, its not lying, its flirting! ;)

Also get a suit, go clubing in said suit and when a chick asks you why say "why not?"

If you score, go back to hers, say your yacht is getting washed
Author:  ElliottGordon [ Wed Feb 08, 2012 1:14 am ]
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You certainly could attract women with what you have.

Plenty of unemployed men living in their parents house that smelled bad have gotten laid.

To me, the issue is not with the women, but with yourself satisfaction, and the worthiness that you feel toward attracting women.

You need to start taking steps to feeling more excepting toward yourself, regardless of whether or not women fit into this equation. If you can't accept yourself at face value, then certainly taking up a hobby, or doing something that's rewarding ( as the other guys mention) will help.

Not having friends is not a bad thing. Sitting in solitude will help you contemplate your inner purpose. Enjoy the free food of your parents, and take time to meditate on what you really want.
Author:  Azdunski [ Wed Feb 08, 2012 1:26 am ]
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Hi!

I can really associate with this one, as I'm sure many of the more experienced guys around here can too. Many guys feel they have "nothing to offer", when they first start out.

First of all, consider the statement "nothing to offer". Why should you offer anything? Be the "selector" and not the "selectee". What does the girl have to offer you? If you re-frame your attitude like this, it will really help you out.

Secondly, you mentioned "getting the girl" and that you don't lead a party lifestyle. Ask yourself if that lifestyle is the kind that you want? If it isn't, that isn't the girl you want either. Try approaching women that are more in tune with you and your needs. Definitely don't change your lifestyle just to get the girl. You'll be unhappy in the long run.

I agree with most of these comments too. Taking up a new job or new hobbies will put you in contact with women who could be better for you, and provide you with self-esteem, which, if I'm honest, I feel this issue probably boils down to.

I'm happy to give you some private inner game mentoring too, if you drop your email down.
Author:  Azdunski [ Thu Feb 09, 2012 1:22 pm ]
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don't live with your parents anymore and try not to work a shitty job. you're accepting a dull and conventional lifestyle and thus are accepting a dull and conventional YOU. what girl wants that? girls have to live conventional lives most of the time; it's just the way society deems them. most of them NEED a guy whos doing something out of the ordinary and cool as fuck. its how it works for real. guys can go out and do brash things so much more easily. you can't rightfully attract a girl until you're putting your male options to use. girls live with their parents and take conservative routes and guys go out and fuck shit up.
Somewhat crude in presentation, but I agree with this. At the end of the day, the word here is "risk". Try taking some and see what changes.
Author:  slaphappy [ Fri Feb 10, 2012 1:47 am ]
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Thanks for all the replys. I would think u can still live wit parents if ur working on future or helping them out. I mean the rest taking risks is no prob wit me but what kinds? I mean I also have no prob of embarrassmentor anything but it seems to me its hard to make friends men or women. I got self esteem and willing to try stuff.
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