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Author:  Stevenage [ Wed Jan 25, 2012 7:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Help! Dont know what to do!!
Serious advice needed.

Been seeing and texting this girl on and off for about a month.

Sent her a message last night after 2 days of no contact saying that we should arrange another meal for next week and that did she still want to come out with me.

She replied saying 'yeah we'll have to sort something out! it feels like i haven't spoken to you in ages.' to which i replied 'i never wanna call you cos i get the feeling you're always too busy to talk. its not that i dont want to talk to you.'

She text back later that night asking for me to call her tomorrow (today)

So it got to around 5pm and I called her and she was on the phone. So I gave it 5-10 mins and called back twice but there was no answer.

I'm abit confused as to what I should do next! considering she's the one who told me to call her and 2 hours have gone past and not 1 text or call. She's one of those girls thats constantly on their phones to her friends so I know its not because she hasn't seen my calls.

What should I do? what should my next move be?
Author:  gameon0303 [ Wed Jan 25, 2012 9:29 pm ]
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Firstly... calm down :) for 2 reasons

1. I realise you've been seeing this girl but she is just one girl, don't try so hard and things will almost definitely work out better.

2. She may actually be busy! She may have forgot that she asked you to call her or had something come up at the last minute.

The text you sent her made yourself seem a bit needy if I'm honest... you framed it so you seemed desperate to talk to her but scared you're wasting her time, screw that man... your time is precious, if anything, talking to her is using your precious time and she should be appreciate any contact you have with her. Try to portray that attitude when you talk to her without being an arse.

One other thing; I remember reading somewhere a long time ago about how to seem dominant but nice when talking to girls; using phrases such as "you should" apparently demonstrate subconscious passive aggressiveness and low confidence (i.e. not alpha male behaviour), I always suggest meet ups by saying "I'm doing ...., come with me." This isn't asking her or suggesting, it's telling her in a nice way... she can still say no if she really wants to but it's much less likely. Girls are naturally submissive and like being guided by a dominant male.. take the lead.

Where to go from here; I would text her being straight to the point "Hello trouble, tried ringing you... ring back when you can, got a busy night/day but will make some time for you". Drop one kiss from the usual number you send... she'll notice ;).
Author:  _Lothario_ [ Fri Jan 27, 2012 2:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Help! Dont know what to do!!
Quote:
Serious advice needed.

Been seeing and texting this girl on and off for about a month.

Sent her a message last night after 2 days of no contact saying that we should arrange another meal for next week and that did she still want to come out with me.

She replied saying 'yeah we'll have to sort something out! it feels like i haven't spoken to you in ages.' to which i replied 'i never wanna call you cos i get the feeling you're always too busy to talk. its not that i dont want to talk to you.'

She text back later that night asking for me to call her tomorrow (today)

So it got to around 5pm and I called her and she was on the phone. So I gave it 5-10 mins and called back twice but there was no answer.

I'm abit confused as to what I should do next! considering she's the one who told me to call her and 2 hours have gone past and not 1 text or call. She's one of those girls thats constantly on their phones to her friends so I know its not because she hasn't seen my calls.

What should I do? what should my next move be?

She wasn't on the phone. She's avoiding you. GFTOW. If she's still interested she'll make the effort and come to you. If you aren't still going out to meet other girls, which is what you were or should have been doing when you met her, then you've put her on a level of priority which she has not earned.

Your happy life as a bachelor should be the most important thing to you, socially, and your responsibilities should come first, period.

Don't wait for her to call for two hours. Live your life. Go use those 2 hours to chase WOMEN. (That's right, WOMEN-not one, but many.)

Pick-up isn't about getting a woman, for anybody. It's about the ability to pick the woman you want out of the many women you have. It's about manipulating social dynamics in your favor, and being comfortable with yourself. One girl, no matter how big her initial impression was on you, is worth crying over after ONE MONTH!

Whether or not a girl is too busy to talk to you is no reason not to call her. That's actually why you call her - to find out! You subordinated yourself by expressing your concern in this matter.

Be attractive. That wasn't it bro. GFTOW

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Author:  Yiff [ Fri Jan 27, 2012 5:00 pm ]
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tip for next time after the first call send that text and occupy yourself with somthing else so weather or not she tries to call u is no big deal u may even forget to answer when she does call but who cares your busy. hence the reason for haveing other females to talk to but if thats not the case go work out or somthing. in order for your time to have value u have to give it value by doing somthig with it. n work on not caring so much.
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