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Author:  Brotein [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 4:26 am ]
Post subject:  Struggling to create real connection with girls (college)

yes i'll make girls laugh, yes ill get on a hi basis with them, yes i can be friendly. My problem is my connections with these women lack depth.

I meet them at parties, i dont get much of a chance because interactions are brief, they are intoxicated and don't remember, or i don't dig deep enough.

ill get several numbers but 95% of them are flakes

i need to know specifically. what key points makes a girl WANT to text you back, what makes her extend the fb invite to YOU the next morning, WHAT makes her start giving you iois.

what typically has to happen in a conversation for there to be connection? even if im just trying to make friends with these girls.

Author:  spurslondon [ Tue Jan 24, 2012 5:16 pm ]
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You can’t rationally convince a woman to be attracted to you. However, an important part of being attractive to women is becoming the prize. This can be very subtle through qualification or not so subtle through having an amazing lifestyle. Remember, being your best self is the ultimate goal of pick-up. If you truly love yourself, women will pick up on it, and ultimately they will want to be a part of your life.

Author:  $hane [ Tue Jan 24, 2012 5:39 pm ]
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^^^^ he is right about that. if you are happy with how you are living your life girls will want to be a part of that. most girls dont want a broken guy because they want a guy who will "fix" them. make the girl chase you. using NEG's and all that shit.

Good luck on the connections

Author:  Donston [ Wed Jan 25, 2012 2:02 am ]
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Well there is the routine/canned method of Qualification or the Natural Method of the difference between Friend to friend vs Male to Female interaction.

Qualification is almost a magical pill to quickly get a girl know that you like her other than her looks. This also helps her invest time with you.

Old school lines are:

1) "What do you got going more than your looks?"
2) "Are you adventures?" ... if she says yes "Cool, I only hang out with adventures people."
3) "When you were young what did you want to grow up as?"
4) "With out failure, what would you want to be?"

Or you can try some Reciprocation, were you share a little about your life, and she will be more incline to share a little of hers.

Guy: I go to school and I'm taking engineering.
Girl: Yeah, me to. I'm studying to become a teacher.
Guy: Cool! You must be a really caring person. I have a big soft spot for girls who take care of me.

There now she knows that I like her more than her looks.

You can also, state why the girl is different and unique:

1) You are very down to earth.
2) you are very self-assured.
3) you are very trusting.

When you take the time to actually articulate why you like her you will stand out from every other guy.

Now for the truly fun stuff:

The Natural Way of Friend-to-Friend Interactions vs. Male-to-Female Interaction


• What defies the Friend-to-Friend interaction?
- Friend-to-Friend interaction is dictated on your intents of hoping that you impress them and hoping that they don’t reject you.
• Your intentions will dictate your sub communication.
- For example, you will be standing not close enough with the girl with an imaginary barrier of holding your drink in between.
- Example #2 will that you will not push the interaction towards sex, but instead to the direction of keeping the conversation going as long as possible. You are trying to impress her.
- The results are that the girl will reply with “It’s nice to meet you” or “I have to get back to my friends.”

• A Male-to-Female interaction is manifested when your intentions are I’m horny, or I think you are cute I just had to meet you and you are not looking for an outcome but thought you should go flirt with her. Basically, you are playing to win!
- The sub communications of a Male-to-Female interaction will be small sub texts of being face to face, hugging and touching, intense eye contact.
- The results are massive amount of attraction and sexual tension. You will push the interaction towards the direction of sexual actions.
- But, high risk will equate to high reward. The risk is that they are creepied out by this, if done wrong or if you start to think in your head, but the rewards are sexual escalations!
• Awesome thing about this is it doesn't matter what you say ... all the sub text you are communicating will do the work.

This is my notes ... I was to lazy to re write it ^_^. But, basically I was sick of interactions where girls say "It's nice to meet you", then they give you kiss on the cheeks. I was feed up and tried to dissect why this is happening and fixed it by changing my intentions and what I'm sub communicating.

Hope that helped:

Sincerely,

Donston

Author:  atom [ Wed Jan 25, 2012 5:30 am ]
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Quote:
You can’t rationally convince a woman to be attracted to you. However, an important part of being attractive to women is becoming the prize. This can be very subtle through qualification or not so subtle through having an amazing lifestyle. Remember, being your best self is the ultimate goal of pick-up. If you truly love yourself, women will pick up on it, and ultimately they will want to be a part of your life.
Man speaks the truth!

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