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| Author: | hootsmon [ Sat Jan 21, 2012 7:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Birthday's are the worst day's... |
I have been plagued with this issue in the past and am potentially going to be plagued by it in the future. What to do when a girl invites you out for her birthday?? I have had a history and bad habit of buying girls gifts on their birthday and I feel that this has severely lowered my value to them. The trouble started when I was invited to a girls party years ago and I really fancied her. So I bought her nice perfume and she liked it but I couldn't help but feel she was intimidated somewhat by the gift. At her party she was of course the center of attention and I ended up barely uttering a word to her. It was a disaster! Another miserable fail of mine was more recently in October where I was invited to another girls party and I bought a scarf for her. She was pleased with it but I haven't heard from her since and I think that again, it was awkward because I didn't know anyone at the party and I was initially hanging around her like a lost dog- highly unattractive I know. I ended up just chatting to some guys and then we all went to a club. As it happened some of her friends didn't get into the club. I could have done the honorable thing and left with the club but i thought fuck it and tried it on with her other friends- FAIL. So with all this in mind I have another dreaded birthday situation. Last night I was invited out by a chick that I met a few weeks ago after new year for her birthday. I was (conveniently unavailable) of at a gig instead her birthday but she seemed a little bit down about it. I ended up meeting her after the gig and its just as well I did because she was ditched by her girlfriends and it was just me and one of her guy friends. The dude soon got the idea and fucked off so it was just me and her. Perfect. She was in a bit of a mood cos she was cold, tired and disappointed about the whole flop of her birthday so all we really did was sit on the booth and cuddle up in the club. We left together and I walked her to her cousin's place where she was staying and said our good buys. Nothing like as bad as my previous convictions. Now to the big question...she has kind of been hinting at me to get a present for her. HELP! This is where I have failed before. I fell like I should get her something or at least do something special to make of for the shitty time she had on her birthday night out. But I know I am in serious danger of lowering my value over this. I don't want to seem desperate and come across as a low value guy but at the same time I want to know her that I can make her feel good even when her so called friends can't. I thought about a scarf, she was wearing mine last night cos she was cold and putting a little thoughtful note in with it. Is this a good Idea or am I going to bollocks it up like every other time? |
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| Author: | jabmaster [ Sat Jan 21, 2012 7:45 pm ] |
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Giving gifts to girls is generally a bad idea unless you are in a relationship. The reason of this is because getting a gift is normally something you need to invest time and money. To a woman, the "value" of a gift comes from: -how much money you expend -how much time and effort you needed to get it -the proof that you have been thinking about her Think of these, you dont want to come off as more invested than her. Also, every gift should have a certain level of customization (it is significant to the girl on a personal level). There are two things that you can do in this situation from my point of view: -Think of a gift that is significant to her and costs less tan 10 dollars -Give her nothing at all Also be aware that she may be shit testing you. Luck |
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