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Author:  tomhung [ Wed Jan 18, 2012 12:32 am ]
Post subject:  Got good game at first, then get attached.
Hi guys, i've been with a fair few great girls in my life and hope to meet many more thanks to this site.

I have ok game meeting girls and when i'm confident and happy i get a lot of attention at parties. This usually means i end up going back with them that night and having sex with them very soon after i meet them.

My problem is this: With some of these girls i will end up seeing them in a casual relationship, and i find that i get very attached, stop gaming, start acting like a pussy, and inevitably sabotage the relationship because i care too much what she thinks. Some of these girls were great relationship material, but i fucked it up by being to needy.

I then try to 'get over' it my rationalizing the girl all the time and it drives me crazy! I eventually get over them, but i would like to ask how i can I improve my long-term game in the future.

Thanks,

Tom
Author:  _Lothario_ [ Wed Jan 18, 2012 9:55 am ]
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You fuck things up because she liked the cool confident guy at the party, but that's not really who you are.

The self shines through. If you're not confident, you're going to rely on someone else to show you who you should be.

You have to search yourself and find out what it is that you value, internally-how much you expect from someone else, and how important other people's opinion really is, and what your own opinion is.

This is a clear sign of overall lack of self knowledge, and self worth.

Value is something you get when you value yourself, not when others value you. People respect other people's boundaries and expectations of etiquette. If you demand more from them, you will get more.
Author:  Wolfwoodd [ Wed Jan 18, 2012 4:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Got good game at first, then get attached.
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how i can I improve my long-term game in the future.
Okay, this is advice to help you manage your tendency to get needy. Once you have that under control, then you can do whatever you'd like. However, for now:

1) Don't promise monogamy
2) Always be dating or looking to date more than one woman
3) Don't see any one girl more than twice a week

The goal is to have 2+ happy fuck buddies for at least a month or two... BONUS POINTS if you can do it without lying to any of them. This should also teach you how to handle shit-tests, as they will definitely shit test you hard when you resist becoming exclusive. If you manage to pull this off, then you'll be ready for pretty much any kind of relationship you could want.

-Wolf
Author:  tomhung [ Wed Jan 18, 2012 7:32 pm ]
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You fuck things up because she liked the cool confident guy at the party, but that's not really who you are.

The self shines through. If you're not confident, you're going to rely on someone else to show you who you should be.
This is not true. I am not pretending to be 'cool and confident', I simply am being it cos im in the right mindset. Also these girls find me attractive because i genuinely am not like other guys.

It's that i'm not seeing enough girls, and getting too emotionially attached, you're right.
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