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Author:  Decessum [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 1:32 am ]
Post subject:  Too scared to go out?
Ok, so I have this... problem, put basically... Im too scared to go out to a club.
A girl just invited me to a club, with her girlfriends, so basically its me and a bunch of other girls. I want to go, but Im dead scared to do so ...
I don't know why... the tought of being with so many girls, and not knowing what to say blocks my head...
How can I get over this?? Has it happened to anyone?
Author:  [deleted] [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 2:49 am ]
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What. the. fuck.

You are seriously retarded. Just go to the freaking club.

Forgive my previous language, but what are you scared of exactly? Haven't you ever faced your fears before? Haven't you been slightly uncomfortable?

When I am scared of approaching a girl I just imagine the worst case scenario. Do the same with the club. If you face your fears head on they will melt in front of you like a ghost that disappears when you shine a light on it. Define your fears and watch them run away.
Author:  bandito69 [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 3:13 am ]
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If i had a girl ask me to a club with her friends, my mind would put that in the "whatever" catagory. I know that even if it does turn out to be a shitty awkward experience i didnt have no control over it, i learned to turn those shitty experiences into funny ones.

I used to be scared shittless back in my super afc days.

Now i do t care what happens. It really cant be taught how to act social life. Game is all self experience. Noone can really teach you, its like learning to ride a bike. Someone pushs you, and watchs you crash into a pole.

Anyway, these are the fundamentals to socializing.

1.) dont worry
Worrying comes from wanting or being scared of the outcome..
Will i be made fun of? What if someone finds out im socialy awkward and i get picked on and humiliated?
Anything can happen, social events are external. You are there to enjoy it, not control it. So if you get called out on and someone gives you shit. Dont give a shit. In matter of fact, i thrive on people giving me shit, i use the attention to my benefit and call them out on being an asshole. And ruining my fun. People will respect you for it, believe me, man.


2.) the outcome of social life should never enter your mind.

When i go out, im usually just bored and wanting to get out of the house. Ill walk around for a while, meet up with friends. Maybe even just sarge alone. Thats it. The greatest adventures of your life usually come when you leastt expect it. So dont expect shit and just get out there, some nights will be shitty, some will be life long memorys.

When you dont expect outcome, it frees your mind to think clearly. When you try to force your will, It fucks everything up.

3.) keep your emotions out of it.
If your an emotional person, youv got to harden up. By this i mean if someone gives shit, you dont cowar down and take the beating, in this situation i myself, would stay happy and let them know they dont affect me.


I can go on and on.. Ill stop now,

When you go out, dont worry, girls sence a scared man. Your body language alone will tell. Girls sence this and like little kids they will tease you like the weak human being you are. dont give a shit, if some people dont like you find the ones who do.
Author:  curazyboy [ Fri Jan 20, 2012 10:54 pm ]
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and i know this might be a little beyond the "i'm scared thing" but if you could dhv yourself by picking up a girl or two at the club in front of them?? dude you will have the girls from the group jealous probably, especially the one who invited you out and then BAM not only are you going home with her, you have two more lined up behind it lol. I wish i had your luck bro
Author:  iTwitch [ Sat Jan 28, 2012 3:42 am ]
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Don't worry I used to be the exact same want to know what I did

Go out on the day your going to a club buy some clothes for that night, this in turn will make you feel better about yourself knowing your not going to look like a complete prick.

You have to remember everyone around you is drunk dosn't matter what they think they're drunk when you get drunk you don't care about anybody else exept the people your with.

Scared of the dance floor? Search up dance floor game to be honest you don't have to be the best dancer I've noticed over the years women will take the lead in dancing until you want to take it, push/pull dance is the best way to increase the attraction on the dance floor push her away grab her arms stick em over your shoulders get your grind on!

Scared of being sick making yourself look like a lightweight? Best thing with this two slices of toast glass of milk and you'll go all night, try not to knock back any strong drink just because your with somebody dosn't mean you can't pace yourself.

When I first went out I was shaking on my way there after first few drinks you'll mellow out your body will dance for you, best thing is to get up and push yourself out!

- iTwitch
Author:  Body Language [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 3:50 pm ]
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First of all, have a think. Why did she invite you out?

I don't know her connection to you but she has invited you out to meet HER and her FRIENDS. Sounds to me like your one step ahead, a girl would not invite a loser she does not like out which means somehow you have value to her all ready (and now her friends).

Do this:

"Go out on the day your going to a club buy some clothes for that night, this in turn will make you feel better about yourself knowing your not going to look like a complete prick."

My personal plan would be to get in the club after they have had a couple of drinks and speak to her straight away, get introduced to her friends, pick your target and neg as appropriate :twisted: (be subtle with the neging). Get a drink, have a cigarette whatever (if you smoke always chew gum after, no one likes smokey breathe!) so that they have enough time to have a word about you (this is dependent on you making Alpha first impression). Ideally talk to as many people whilst doing this.

Then go back to them and break the group down so you have the original girl and (if the one who invited you isn't your target) your target and get to the good good part, talking about you :D .

Eventually your intentions will be clear and you will be left alone with your target. Now don't mess it up and only k-close out of sight of her friends.


That's the best I can offer on the subject but I would love to know how this one goes, keep us updated!!
Author:  ACS1 [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 5:51 pm ]
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Go Go enjoy these new experiences! :D Good Luck!
Author:  Body Language [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 3:17 pm ]
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This is very relevant to my interest's, so update please!
Author:  Decessum [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 8:22 pm ]
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Thanks everyone for your replies! Sadly, I didn't went to the club that night, and she was texting me "Whyy?" and stuff, she said it was the last time she'll invite me, which it wasn't. Next week, she invited me to eat with other friends of her at a house, but I couldn't go. Then last week she invited me again to eat, now I finally accepted, and we're dating now. Except, she has a boyfriend, that I know she will leave in this next days, seeing as how she has always wanted me, she has told me that her boyfriend had made her feel not sexy, and undesired, and that being with me makes her feel sexy and attractive and desired again. She hasn't mentioned that she will leave him, although she refers to him as an ex. We're most likely having sex this week, at a hotel.
How do I proceed with this situation?
Author:  Body Language [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 9:57 pm ]
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Doesn't sound like you need any help. If the hotel room is booked and she is going to leave her boyfriend then job is a goodun!

Don't wuss out on the K-close otherwise it will go nowhere! If she wants to feel sexy kiss her all over her body, that will turn up her heat. And stroke her whole body as you do. I love it :D

Have fun!

Body Language
Author:  Decessum [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 12:23 am ]
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Ooo, we're past the Kiss close now ;)
This weekend we spent 5 to 6 hours making out in the car, and talking ... I fingered her, and kissed her on the back and the neck, practically got her naked. Although we didn't had sex, I could, but I wanted to be comfortable.
The hotel room is booked and we're set for the weekend, bringing a bottle of alcohol, and spending the night. We both know we're going to have sex. According to her, she has only had sex one time with her boyriend in almost 2 years of relationship. She always told me to leave my girlfriend and that she would leave her boyfriend, but I never did, now that Im single, Im pretty sure she will leave her boyfriend. I mean, she doesn't even hide it, we flirt on facebook, through wall posts, that her boyfriend can easily see. I don't know if she's making it so the guy leaves her by seeing that, but I mean, its ruthless flirting through facebook on and on.
She says she feels sexy again with me, that her boyfriend made her lose all that. She feels attractive and desired once again.
She has on facebook a relationship with him, but he doesn't has her back, how long should I wait before I tell her about this??
SHe says she is pretty excited about being with me, that she likes me A LOT, and loved the way I kissed her.
I was thinking of waiting maybe till the 14th of february to ask her about the boyfriend, I don't know if she wants to wait till after the 14th to break up with him.
But, how long should I wait to confront her about it? Or should I just let it be...
Author:  Body Language [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 12:42 pm ]
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Good going man, stories like these get me charged up :D

I know its going really well now but don't lose your cool and over do it with the messaging, women like the push/pull and if your all push she will fall off the pedestal you too share at the moment.

I wouldn't bother asking but it depends what you and she wants. If she wants a relationship then chances are it will flourish like this and you two will be dating soon enough and your picture will be in that relationship box. If she just wants to use you to feel sexy (personally I wouldn't want this is she was still dating some AFC but each to their own) then that picture will probably stay so her friends don't think she is a slut. Either way, here comes the sexy time :wink:

Body Language
Author:  Decessum [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 9:34 pm ]
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Thanks!! Right now Im a little confused, she removed the photo of her bf, and she says that she has told several of her friends already about me. And just the way we talk, she tells me she is mine, that she wants me for herself, she is already making future plans with me, saying Im the kind of guy she'll invite with her friends. Everything says she wants me and to be honest I do too.
Today I saw a post by her boyfriend or ex I dont know, she says its ex. Anyway, the message said something like
"I got to school safely my love, how are you?" but she never said anything romantic to him. I dont know if she wants to feel more sure about me, like she said. She said she feels really safe with me, how we are the perfect couple etc... so it is kinda confusing.
Author:  Body Language [ Wed Feb 01, 2012 12:20 am ]
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What the hell?

"I got to school safely my love" - can you put that in context? does he work there?

Check her response, if she even does respond. If she does just say "its good you and your ex are staying friends". That way she knows your aware but also that you are not troubled by it, your a secure guy.

One other thing I would recommend is that you carry on being friends or making friends openly with other women, don't make yourself a too easy catch.
Author:  Decessum [ Wed Feb 01, 2012 1:58 am ]
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I think, from what she used to tell me months ago, that he goes to school in Las Cruces, NM, which is about an hour drive from where we live. Something like that, I don't know if he stays there or not.

Well, that's why I am confused, I mean, she's not hiding me, in fact her friends know about me. I don't know, maybe he still wants to call her pet names, I don't know. I want to wait at least a week more, to ask her about it. I mean, we're having sex this weekend, and maybe bringing it up will make her rethink it, girls are most vulnerable after sex, so thats when I'll ask her.

She knows I'm not an easy catch, I'm seeing other girls, I told her that. But the thing is, everything she says and does is like if she was so in love with me, she wants me, she says I'm the best she's ever met, we even make fun of her boyfriend, and she says she loves it when I make fun of him.

She tried to make me jealous earlier saying that one of the friends she told about me, wanted to be with her, and she says she gets hit on a lot of school, and I responded cool, saying "Oh yeah, I know how that feels, its the rockstar life" ...

I'll see her tommorow, and we're having dinner friday night, and going to the hotel on saturday. I know sometimes its not hard to leave a boyfriend, she says he threatened to commit suicide if she left him. BUt its clear she doesn't love him, or even want him. Not even physically attractive, he just took advantage of a time of weakness that she was in, and trapped her in this "commiting suicide" cant live without you game.

I mean, I like her, and I don't mind the fact that she is cheating on her boyfriend with me, even if we get into a relationship, I would go as far as to say the cheating is acceptable, the boyfriend told her, he's not ready to have sex, they've had sex ONE time in almost 2 years, and he lasted less than 5 mins.

I'll play it cool, and will keep this post updated.
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