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Author:  yeeaabuddy [ Mon Dec 12, 2011 3:11 am ]
Post subject:  Is it possible to stay a chode your whole life?
I'm waay to nice and insecure around girls so I decided to look up on how to get girls. I found this website and it's golden. I'm getting tired of being the shy kid at parties and the only thing that gets me by is my looks from time to time. I want to go out during the day and talk to girls in order to practice but when ever I do, I usually ask one or two girls for directions and then say thanks and walk away. My sticking point is actually doing a cold approach during the day by myself. I will literrally go out for hours and I won't even talk to one girl. Where do you find the motivation!? Do you need to go with a friend in order to have fun doing approaching girls, or do you have to go out at night?
Author:  RealMe [ Mon Dec 12, 2011 1:29 pm ]
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I am still an AFC but I can give my 2 cents.

What really helped me is my friend who also is into game. I can just discuss things with him and in the beginning it was easier to go to the club in 2. Also I think that starting in the club is easier because people just go there to meet other people and girls are not suprised when a guy is hitting on them. And when you are polite they will not tell you to "fuck off" but usually are nice and just leave when you act silly :D

Beware... I suggest you approach the hottest women possible. Dunno why but the more attractive the girl is the better manners she has. The ugly ones act really bitchy - probably venting their's frustrations.

I am trying to act as I would in the day game because then I want to switch to the day game. And the club game really helps me, I feel more confident and I am sure I have more conversation skills and better eye contact than before.
Author:  Hawke91 [ Tue Dec 13, 2011 1:31 am ]
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What you do is you set yourself a goal. Might sound terrifying but thats what a change is. You just tell yourself, for example, that "tonight i'll go out and talk to 5 girls". Then go out and do it. Go to a bar in the evening and if it helps, get a drink or two in and roll on then. Just approach and open as usual, but do not overthink it. People in the bars are already dizzy so it shouldn't be that difficult to start a conversation, eh? You can also set a plan for yourself: how do you open and how do you roll on from there. I'd recommend to use non-canned material (though it depends on preferences), to just have a conversation without thinking "when shall i cram in my routines or things". Be as social as you can possibly be (not only on gaming but f.e. in shops, libraries etc.) and i promise that you'll get rid of your approach anxiety. Change. Believe it. If you do as you've always done, you'll get what you've always got.
Author:  getwit [ Tue Dec 13, 2011 3:46 am ]
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imo, the worst thing you can do is get too wrapped up in this "pick up lifestyle". You will constantly search for shortcuts and get disappointed when you fail.

This site does, however, provide great insight with regards to making vital lifestyle changes that will positively affect you for the rest of your life. Motivation lies within; you can't force it. You were motivated enough to make an account and join this site. That's a step forward already. Now, realize that you have qualities that alot of other guys don't have (cause I guarantee you do) and use these as tools.

I know it's cliche, but failure is great experience. Being rejected does suck at first, but I'd rather be the guy that fails 9 times and succeeds once opposed to the guy who never succeeds or fails cause he refuses to try. Easier said than done, but it's the truth man
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