Hey I have a bunch of numbers and tend to get numbers no problem, but keeping things going in the diretion I want from there is the sticking point. So I've come across hot and confident, got their number, but then... somewhere inside I know I was "acting up" to being confident, acting well but still acting, I know that below the surface I have a tonne of insecurities and negative opinions influenced by my parenting/childhood.
I think I realised what has been happening is I've been failing shittests without realising I'm doing it, or being submissive in some ways when I should have been more assertive. So now I'm trying my new technique which is to insist that I deserve decent behaviour without being a douche about it.
I wanted a date for where I'm going out tonight but haven't managed to get in touch with some people, but those whom I have, well, I'd like some feedback on my approach. Excuse the first messages beign AFC I hadn't made me realisation yet.
girl #1:
Now this girl is very good looking but I haven't let that influence the way I treat her so far as I know. I went for a very short coffee (1 hr) with her n Friday and we had a nice/fun chat, still ambiguous as to whether it's friendly or not although i got a couple of IOIs such as her cradling her head on her hands to display her face in that cute way girls do to show off their better features, and when we parted she went in to kiss me on the cheek without me trying so that looked pretty good, therefore, I can't understand why I get no reply, you can tell me if I've douched it up
Sat 3.51 Hey are you free for a thing tomorrow night? It should be a fun thing not a boring thing.
Sat 9.52 plus I'll be there so it will definately be fun
Text back before I invite someone else., I know you're having a fun Saturday night but I like to know what my plans are!girl #2:
I met this girl when we were both promoting the same event and she commented that I must have good luck with girls because I was very confident going up to them and telling them about our event. I wish I had the amount of luck she thinks I would but actually I'm a half-way-house
CS - Hey R. want to come out to a fun, arty night tomorrow with some performance poetry, Low budget theatre etc.
R - That sounds fun! I have so much work that I have to catch up with today but I'm hoping I'll get it done by the evening!x
CS - Be good this afternoon then, I'll meet you at B Street underground around ten past 7
R - WOAH there! I've made no promises! I was working till 4 this morning and need sunday to study I'll let you know though
CS - WHOA there! Yourself! You playing hard to get already?
I like to know what my plans are, when will you know?R - Okay fair enough. I think assume that I can't make it then. Sorry mate!
CS - Alright then have fun with ya books, maybe another time they have something on most weeks.
R - Ok cool! Have a great eve and thank you for the invitation!
----have not replied back yet, don't know what I should say----
I think I did better the second time (the first convo) because I interpreted both:
R - WOAH there! I've made no promises! I was working till 4 this morning and need sunday to study I'll let you know though
and
R - Okay fair enough. I think assume that I can't make it then. Sorry mate!
as an unconscious test asking who has more status, i seem to have performed alright because
in the end I got
R - Ok cool! Have a great eve and thank you for the invitation!
hope you have a good time