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| Author: | Straight Up [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 2:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Shy around Alphas |
ok... so all my mates ive now met through college are my closest friends i ahve... They are ALL alpha, can ALL speak to girls easily and pull... So now that im in this crowd, i sometimes feel hard to chat up girls around them, i think its just because i dont want to look like the worst guy at talking to girls, especially if its like a gathering at one of their houses with a few girls there, i find it hard to speak up and that... I know i need to tell myself "just say whatever i want to" but i feel ill make an idiot out of myself sometimes infront of the lads and the girls.... Anyone got any ways to overcome this? Im not like this around other guys, just these lot sometimes just because they are all so Alpha over me I got to admit, i am now one of them and an Alpha over most guys now, just obviously not over them because they are all naturals... Any tips to overcome this? |
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| Author: | Libertine Aim [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 6:18 pm ] |
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Damn, i know exactly what your talking about. I got the same problem. One thing that i'ved come to conclusion is: don't forget yourself when you'r around them - it will litteraly have an negative effect on your life. All around. I'ved made the mistake that in the last year i'ved hanged around some of my best buddies that are natural alphas, and I've been used to them do the talking - all the time. I'd found it entertaining and interesting to listen to their stories and jokes, but it also made me de-valuate myself. "What can I say that are just as great. Oh fuck it, now it's too late. Well, I guess I just keep my mouth shut. That's the easiest solution anyway.". It's easy to get caught up being on auto-pilot when you are around that kind of people because they talk alot. My only advice that I'ved learned from experinence is that you need to pay FULL attention when you are around them - they got many things in their mouth and alot of stories. For example, don't let there be silence after they have told you a story - pay attention and your mind will automaticly search for stories to relate to - and then just tell it. Don't always let them be in the spotlight - let it be a principal for you. You are the man, you need as more attention as them. There is an old greek myth thats about two persons: Narcissus and Ecco. Narcissus is focusing on himself, and are really in love with himself. He love to hear his own voice and love to look himself in the mirror. Ecco is in love with Narssisus. She is facisnated about his self-confidence. She leans upon him all the time, and modify her life, values and statements so it fits with Narcissus'. She change her personality for him. Don't be Ecco! Keep your frame. Think about yourself, and what you'r own values in life is. Don't let them have an effect on it. Disagree with them if they say something that sounds wrong for you - and stand by it. The only way to find out if you disagree with them or not is to pay full attention to what they are saying. About the picking up girls with them. You know the answer yourself: Just say it. The only way to be the worst guy at talking with girls is not to talk with them at all. Start off just being friendly. It's good training, and people (especially your Alpha-friends) will give you credit for making new people comfortable being around you. The girls will feel your friends admireing you. It will make you more Alpha than them. So, to sum up: 1: Keep you'r frame 2: Pay full attention - don't be on auto-pilot when you are hanging with them. 3: Be friendly when you dosen't know what to say in lots with girls. Not every girl have to be picked up. If you make a new friend she may introduce you to some of her female friends and there might be a girl for you. Your friends will admire you for making new friends and meeting new people. It's easy to make friends with new people - just be friendly and interested. Looking forward to read some other advices. //LA |
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