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| Author: | IAMNOXIOUS [ Thu Oct 13, 2011 10:41 am ] |
| Post subject: | Continuing To Build Her Interest? Ideas? |
I couldn't find much for the after sex portion of the game....Any advice on keeping a girl interested after sleeping with her? Numerous times? The basic details: While playing the field, I seem to have met one I really like, and one I have genuine chemistry with. We met 3 months ago, and hit it off. We have some mutual friends, exchanged numbers (she took mine), and within a couple of weeks, we began texting every day. Normally I text the other girls once per week, but with this seems just seemed to fit well. 2 months have gone by of texting daily (she texts me every morning), we've slept together a couple of times. She's all over me. Right where I want to be right? Yes and no. The moment you think you have all your bases covered is the moment you stop watching them. It's turning from successful pickup to relationship, and while I'm not ready to commit, the ultimate goal would be to deliver all the game I've got (and you guys) up until that happens, and with this one I eventually hope it does. It's been a good run. I want to rock this one's world. Ideas to make sure this continues to happen? The upside: - She texts daily - She told me the other day, "I know I'm not supposed to say this, but I'm so falling for you." - She openly expresses wanting to sleep with me again and teases about it - She's told her friends about me, and continually tries to explain to them how awesome I am, etc. The downside: - My game is going a little soft, naturally because I like her more than the others - I text her back when she texts daily which I NEVER do - I straight up told her that I like her a lot - She's super easy going, so cat and mouse is difficult - There is practically NO drama between us, so all negs come off as playful |
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| Author: | papichulo818 [ Fri Oct 14, 2011 7:04 pm ] |
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You dig each other, no reason to play games. Dude just make her feel special you need to transition from this PUA stuff into relationship mode if that's what you want with this girl. Plan some romantic things for the 2 of you, but be a bit mysterious, never lay all your cards out as predictability gets boring - even for a chick who's really feeling you. If you're having problems finding unique places to take her to checkout a tourism page for your city/town. Also, a lot of girls just like to stay at home with their guy and cuddle watching a movie. I wouldn't text her all the time to be honest otherwise when you meet you have less to talk about and also it's important to have autonomy in any relationship; being in each others' 'face' all the time gets annoying quick - think of it as a star expending its energy at a rapid rate, it'll just supernova quicker, so learn to slow things down a bit as it creates great sexual tension and will leave her longing for more, and also help you keep control of things. I'd still use a bit of push/pull with her but ONLY as a tool for escalating sexual tension (makes for much better sex). I think you need to look back on this and take inventory of what you did right. Obviously it got you this far with her, so perhaps only minor tweaking is necessary. With respect to text whoring each other - IT MAY FEEL GOOD TO HAVE ALL THIS ATTENTION (studies show that whenever we receive a text or even a FB poke, msg we experience little squirts of dopamine in our brains - the 'feel good'/reward neurotransmitter), BUT IT SUBCONSCIOUSLY TELLS THE OTHER PERSON THAT YOU'RE ALWAYS AVAILABLE/ACCESSIBLE. This is actually a form of intermittent reinforcement, if you'd like to read on it you can do so here http://www.psywww.com/intropsych/ch05_c ... ement.html Things you can do: Drive-in movie (bring a blanket, some food even), take her to a really cool/unique restaurant, ice/roller skating, drive somewhere to outskirts of city with beautiful view, take blanket and lay on beach with her at night under the stars, go somewhere and bring her favorite dessert with you as a surprise, shooting range, go-karting, arcade, bowling, amusement park, haunted house (it's Halloween, must be some in your area) etc... Figure out what her interests are and plan things things accordingly. With chicks its the little things you do that really matter - anyone can do the above things, but really if you aren't in the moment with her, and engaging her it wont matter, so above all else do something to quell your anxieties (e.g. think to yourself she likes you so a lot of the work is done and now you can just enjoy her). You can also "fake it till you make it" - in other words think what a confidant man would do, and act this way. Big mistake would be to act ON all the time, you might annoy her so if anything be a bit more on the chill side, and if she's worth having around she'll like you for who you are. |
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