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| Author: | Ash121 [ Wed Sep 14, 2011 11:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Sticking point after opening: running out of things to say |
An old problem I know but my issue in this whole PUA scene is that directly after the opener I just don't know what to say next. Here some examples over the last couple of months: Sales assistant (HB7): Me: Hi - could you tell me how to get to the town centre? HB: Blah, blah... Me: Oh ok, which part of town are you from? HB: Blah, blah... Me: (Getting stuck now)...I'm Ash btw. HB: I'm so and so... ....and that's it! I've run out of things to say and politely bail out. Hot girl on a train (HB 8.5) reading a paper Me: Sorry, d'you know if this train stops at XXXX? HB: Um, yeah I think so. Me: Just realised, you look like my ex-gf's room mate. HB: Oh right... Me: I'm Ash btw... HB: I'm so and so... Me: You're not from London then? HB: No I'm from blah, blah... ...and again, my mind goes blank! As you can probably see I have no problem opening cute girls which on one hand feels like a great achievement cos it's better than a lot of guys would do. I've gone in indirect, I've gone in direct and told them that they're cute but neither amounts to anything cos I very quickly run out of things to say. Doesn't help cos I'm not the best story teller in the world either... I'm sure I'm not the only guy in this boat either. How the f*** do you over come this cos I really feel that this is holding me back! |
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| Author: | eripmav [ Thu Sep 15, 2011 1:12 am ] |
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Your problem seems pretty clear to me: Quote: HB: Blah blah
You're not listening and/or not interested in what she has to say!Quote: Let's take an easy example. Suppose a girl said to you "At this party last night, I got really drunk and started grinding with my girlfriend and making out with her."
Do you ever run out of things to say with your buddies? I'm guessing no; because you're relaxed and interested in what they have to say. Take some interest, qualify her and challenge her and stop concentrating on the outcome.
Possible topics for you to vibe off of are: 1. The party last night 2. Parties in general 3. What you did last night 4. Getting really drunk 5. Girls making out with other girls 6. Her girlfriend 7. Grinding/dancing 8. Dancing at parties/clubs This is the easy part. Just by recognizing what a wealth of topics she presents you with every time she opens her mouth, you'll solve the problem of "stalling out" and having nothing to say. |
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