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So my housemates and I are organising a halloween party for the children we work with. Were doing it in a bar called 'talking to a stranger' and we just went last night to meet the manager so we could lay out the parameters and rules for the party. Anyway the owner was this australian guy and we asked him some cool questions and now all the girls I live with are soo excited to organise this party!

Have you ever organised a big party for kids before? Well my house mates and I are in the middle of making one now that is really exhausting and exciting!! Anyway yesterday all the girls and I went out and met the owner of this bar called 'talking to a stranger'. The bar is quite intresting, have you ever been to a place that feels really secluded?, well this bar is very private, its very comfortable its like your own garden. Its this old house thats been changed into a bar with outdoor tables and lots of plants and high walls. So it feels like your own private garden you and your friends are sharing a drink in. So we met up with this australian guy. First thing he did after introducing himself was to pull out a fag and light up. You know those guys who you just know smokes too much? The type that look haggard almost? It was hard for me not to laugh when he spoke his voice was so husky! Haha. Anyway after the meeting all the girls I live with and I were all so excited. You know that feeling you get when your having a good conversation with someone and you know a good thing is going to happen from it and you get really excited like a light feeling in your stomach? So now were all so excited to create this party for the little kids!

Author:	Chikito [ Mon Sep 24, 2007 6:52 am ]
Post subject:	A detailed lesson in storytelling.
First of all. We all know we have to DHV when were building attraction with a woman, but alot of new people still dont understand (and i didnt when i started) exactly how to DHV. Storytelling is one way to DHV and probably the best way, but by no means is storytelling the only choice! Its just an easy one. I write this because i never found a post like this when I started. You will easily find this information in the many PUA books out there, but then again. So much info in one book you will miss things! So here is my take on story telling. Firstly one must understand the skeletal interactions that occur when any social interaction occurs. To find out more click here Now that you understand value exchange, heres how you can raise your value! Storytelling Firstly when creating a story you want to have six elements incorporated into it: 1. A Hook 2. Content (the actual story) 3. Embedded value raising information 4. Opportunities for input 5. Open Threads 6. A conclusion. A hook This is your introduction. But you dont just want any introduction, you need somthing that will grab the attention of your set. Its important to have alot of attention when your building attraction. Try to create an excuse to tell a story, you want her to be the one asking you to tell making you have more value! PUA: [Start smiling and chuckling] You just reminded me of somthing funny that happened to me in Thailand... HB: What was it?! PUA: [Start story about your trip to Thailand] PUA: Omg not this song! I love and hate this song!! HB: Why?! PUA: Well In my old band we used to...[go into story about my drumming] PUA: Man I really love this drink...what your favourite drink? HB: blah blah PUA: Awsome I remember this one time i had this crazy drink at this party...[awsome story] You get the point. KEY POINTS - She should be under the illusion that she started the story, its somthing spontanious that leads from the conversation. Not somthing you just blurted out and had nothing to do with the convo. - Its attention grabbing, intresting things should be said in the first line, making her want to know! Content Women are emotion driven creatures. Men are logic driven. Of course things change from person to person and some women may enjoy more factual thing and vice versa. Mainly though when telling a stroy try to remove useless logical or factual information. Take an ordinary story and tell it just like you would to your buddies. Quote: So my housemates and I are organising a halloween party for the children we work with. Were doing it in a bar called 'talking to a stranger' and we just went last night to meet the manager so we could lay out the parameters and rules for the party. Anyway the owner was this australian guy and we asked him some cool questions and now all the girls I live with are soo excited to organise this party! NOW emotionally charge it. It should become less of a story and more of an account of your feelings when it happened. Quote: Have you ever organised a big party for kids before? Well my house mates and I are in the middle of making one now that is really exhausting and exciting!! Anyway yesterday all the girls and I went out and met the owner of this bar called 'talking to a stranger'. The bar is quite intresting, have you ever been to a place that feels really secluded?, well this bar is very private, its very comfortable its like your own garden. Its this old house thats been changed into a bar with outdoor tables and lots of plants and high walls. So it feels like your own private garden you and your friends are sharing a drink in. So we met up with this australian guy. First thing he did after introducing himself was to pull out a fag and light up. You know those guys who you just know smokes too much? The type that look haggard almost? It was hard for me not to laugh when he spoke his voice was so husky! Haha. Anyway after the meeting all the girls I live with and I were all so excited. You know that feeling you get when your having a good conversation with someone and you know a good thing is going to happen from it and you get really excited like a light feeling in your stomach? So now were all so excited to create this party for the little kids! Notice how i reference what I felt. What my surroundings were like and how it made me feel. I also described my feelings and what they do to you (usefull cus the girl will start doing that too). Embedding vale raising info The key to this is Subtlety. Its important to remember these things when inbedding your attractive qualities into a story. 1. Make your attractive quality relevant to the story, it must not seem out of place or forced in. 2. Make sure the story is intresting! Who cares about the DHV's if the plot is lame! It wont work. DHV's require a level of intrest when you use them! If they are not intrested they might not pick up the DHV or it may become to obvious and make you look like your showing off. 3. Do not over DHV, if the DHV's steal the frame of the story its too obvious and will make you look like your showing off. "So last weekend i was hanging with my buddy Matt Dlyon at this fair..." no no. So know your attractive qualities: - Healthy - "My buds and I went rock climbing this one time..." - Social Intuition - "It was tough but I talked my way outa it..." - Humour - Should be recurring in the whole pick up. - Status - "so as the captain of the team the guys were all asking what to do!" - Wealth - "So we all flew to thailand for our graduation trip.." - Pre-selected - "So my ex was freaking out and i told her to calm down while i..." - Challenging - Done through negs/indicators of disintrest etc. - Confident - Self explanitory. Oportunities for input Especially in the comfort stage when you tell a story giving the woman an opportunity to input her own info builds more trust and comfort with the two of you. So create oportunities for input for her to add in! PUA: Do you have a pet? HB: Yeha i have a cat and a dog PUA: nice. I have a dog, shes i think she is the stupidest dog in the world, shes such a princess, mostly because of me. My ex used to get so pissed off with her cus I let her sleep in my room, and she hated being disturbed by it. Now my dog cant sleep out of my room because of the aircon. Do you let your pets sleep in your room? HB: Sometimes blah blah PUA: Cool, so my dog has this thing she does where she refuses to go the way i want to take her when I take her for a walk...etc. Notice with that DHV its a little close to showing off, so there i would go on and talk as if nothing important was said! Showing you are comfortable and immune to the awakwardness of talking about past sexual partners is a DHV! Open Threads Think of open threads as bait for your audience, you want them to ask questions to spur answers from you about your attractive qualities. If she asks questions its not showing off, your simply answering. So the line: "Anyway yesterday all the girls and I went out and met the owner of this bar called 'talking to a stranger'." is a open thread. HB: All the girls? haha you some sort of pimp? PUA: Haha you wish, I have been living with 6 women and no other men for 8 months now. Anyway...blah This is a DHV that screams im comfortable with women! Understand? Anything in your story that could move onto a new topic. Also you could keep some mystery behind it: HB: All the girls? haha you some sort of pimp? PUA: Ill tell you later, let me finish! or HB: All the girls?... PUA: lets not talk about it now..anyway soo... You can DHV by not DHVing! Your time is too important.. The Conclusion Always end with more energy, remember the basic rule of opening, noone wants to hang out with someone who is bringing down their energy level. Your concluding sentence MUST indicate that the story ended. You dont want someone asking you 'so after that..what happened to the kids?' cus you probably dont have things prepared. As you internalise the storytelling skills you will be able to make good dhv storys off the top of your head then it doesnt really matter. Concluding sentences need to be clear like: "I dont think im ever driving in the dark again." "After that, i'd never drink mojito's again!" "I think thats the only time ive ever heard a man cry" If your stumped then you can just talk about what you learnt from that story. This is particularly effective in the comfort building stage. So thats how to tell a story! If you found this useful and informative please direct people to it, so our old timers here dont get frustrated at answering the same questions over and over.

Author:	sandman808 [ Mon Sep 24, 2007 7:01 am ]
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A+

Author:	Inferno [ Mon Sep 24, 2007 8:21 am ]
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This is EXACTLY what I needed. Thanks a lot man.

Author:	Chikito [ Mon Sep 24, 2007 3:04 pm ]
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Thanks guys im glad i can help. Also Bump.

Author:	Slick85 [ Mon Sep 24, 2007 9:56 pm ]
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awesome bro... i think i will focus on the pre selected

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Author:	Apollo [ Wed Sep 26, 2007 8:19 pm ]
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AMAZING POST. All you new guys listen up here. This is what you need to read! Keep this one up near the top.

Author:	Koel [ Fri Sep 28, 2007 10:22 am ]
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really helpfull.. thanX!

Author:	dirtdog [ Sat Sep 29, 2007 5:57 pm ]
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This is a great great great post. Thanks. Open all the sets you want, but unless you can tell some quirky stories and DHV in them. Your not too bound to close well.

Author:	swiftone [ Sat Oct 06, 2007 12:48 am ]
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THIS IS AWESOME! THIS IS A MUST READ FOR ALL THE NEWBEES

Author:	Lone Wolf [ Sat Oct 06, 2007 7:59 am ]
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This is a really a well thought out post that I'd had the pleasure of stumbling upon. Fantastic description and I really liked how you included examples after each key point.

Author:	unclesam [ Sat Oct 06, 2007 5:35 pm ]
Post subject:	Just one question...?
So in the DHV stage after a set is opened, should the stories be directed at the friend or the target?

Author:	wanabepua [ Sat Oct 06, 2007 9:17 pm ]
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Hey Chikito, thanks, your post is going to be a great help to me, thanks again for your time.

Author:	Cervantes [ Wed Oct 10, 2007 2:20 am ]
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Thanks, man. I appreciate the summaries you've been posting. Keep it up!

Author:	tdizzle [ Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:56 am ]
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very helpful working on some new storys now

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Author:	musicmanz [ Wed Oct 10, 2007 6:51 am ]
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the point when u said "Also you could keep some mystery behind it: HB: All the girls? haha you some sort of pimp? PUA: Ill tell you later, let me finish! " Good point. Yeah i was thinking the same. And we can also include a line where we can direct them to hang wit us or go somewhere in the future. Eg. I'll tell u later after our dinner. I'L tell u next time i see u at my place:)