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I Need Help!!!!!!!!
I live in London and recently went to a club in the Soho district. This club was the perferc place for picking up Amreican, British, and European girls. There were three dance floors, and lots of good music. The drinks were also pretty cheap.
When i entered the club i was smiling and looked confident (although i did not feel confident). I broke the three second rule ...
That's why it went wrong (bold).
Looked confident? No way. Stop lying to yourself. Unless you TRULY feel confident, you'll never look confident.
Your body does not lie: smiling is not enough. People will instantly see you're not feeling confident a mile away.
What you need to learn first is to believe that you are interesting and attractive, and by this I mean don't think you are, KNOW you are.
Use the forum search tool: search for "inner game". Work very hard on that. Do some outside research on body language, as this will teach you to recognize how others perceive you and react to you, but don't think of using this knowledge for creating a false image of self-confidence, it will never work.
You really need to work on your self-esteem first and foremost. There is no such thing as an easy cure for approach anxiety, sorry.