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| Author: | PUAdave [ Tue Feb 17, 2009 7:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Neging a friend/ Risk & Reward |
Potential Neg: “I love having a hot friend that I don’t have to worry about hitting on me & complicating things…….You’re like my adorable little sister.” Results I want: I would like for her to make a move or to start hitting on me so I can make the move. Situation: I like hanging out with this girl as a friend, but she is hot & of course would love to bang her too but don't want to risk the friendship to much by looking like I am hitting on her because right now I enjoy her as a friend & she is the best social proof I have when we go to clubs. She helps my game. I haven't hit on her once which has allowed me to get close to her quick & I think build some attraction under the radar though which is why I think might be the time to convey I think she is hot but still show disinterest. Complications: She set me up with her best friend which is on & off (currently off), & she has a BF, but she leaves him home on the weekends & contacts me to see where we are hanging, while constantly talking him down. Couple reasons she needs to make the move or make it where I can. #1 You think it's worth it or not to jeopardize the social proof & friendship if I have miscalibrated? #2 Is that a good neg to get the results I want & harmless enough to try? |
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| Author: | bani [ Tue Feb 17, 2009 8:05 pm ] |
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Hi. I´m having exactly same issue. Gonna be reading this "conversation". |
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| Author: | daggaz [ Wed Feb 18, 2009 6:28 pm ] |
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Thats not really a neg man, that is a disqualifier. As well neither one in and of itself will "get you the results you want." Really, if women were so simple that it only took a simple act or a single offhand comment to get in their pants, do you honestly think any of us would be here on this board discussing them at all? Anyways, strictly speaking, a disqualifier is more of what you would use if you are trying to get the girl to chase you a bit. A neg is for disarming bitch shields or simply for taking the woman down a notch or two because she is up too high, bitch shield or not, or because you want to take her back up again right after. You need to look at the bigger picture tho, as once again, just because you say X or do Y, doesnt ever mean that she will respond fully with Z. In your case, she is responding with F. As in, FRIENDS ZONE! You are thoroughly sunk in the best friends zone, she is even hooking you up with her GF's. Your window of opportunity has passed by, at this point it is serious turn around time if you want to get back in her pants, and good luck with that. You need to show a girl solid sexual interest or she will shelve you as a friend or flat out lose interest, or both. There is no pussy footing around "I just like you cuz you are so nice and I would hate to ruin that." If you play that game, you will get EXACTLY what you are asking her for. Or worse, she will take you for an underhanded sleezy AFC creep. What else would you expect, pretending to be "just real friends" so you can fuck her.. Instead of fucking around hoping to get this girl to come after you (seriously man...) you should have been going directly after her, and THEN moving off and teasing her about how it could never work etc etc etc.. back and forth, back and forth. |
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