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Slipfinger,
I have found a real easy accronym to really help keep the convo goin. It is
FORM. It means
F-family (get her talking about her family)
O-occupation(what does she do and why)
R-recreation(what does she like to do for fun and why)
M-motivation(what brought her to the bar tonight, what makes her tick)
I think it is an easy thing to remember and if you follow this pattern, you will have a much easier time keeping the convo going. Just remember to try and relate to her answers as much as you can.
chill
This is quite AFC. If a girl is at a bar she is there to have fun and drink and probably wants to forget about all that. So use at your own risk.
Instead, talk about experiences you have had and use them to guide the conversation. Think of a comics and how they deliver their material. Some like to make quick punch line jokes and transition to the next immediatley. Others use long drawn out scenarios that build to a climax and then segway back to the beginning or underlieing meaning. Travel, injuries, akward situations, pets etc. all make for great conversations. Just avoid asking where do your work and what not, as they should be used, but sparingly here and there.
For example: (Think of a comic who is giving quick punchlines)
You: Are you more of a cat person than a dog person, because it seems that girls tend to like cats more?
HB:No I like Dogs
You: Yea met too. What about turtles? I had this turtle a long time ago it was pretty sweet. I used to swim with it in my pool. Then it ran away
HB: Really?
You: No, I don' think turtles can run. But it did walk away.
HB: Haha that sux.
You: Yea, I found the skeleton a few weeks later. I think the coyotes ate them.
HB: Coyotes?
You: Yea they live in the canyon behind my dads house.
See how I transitioned from cats and dogs, to turtles, to coyotes and I could still go on. Its all word association. By the way that is a true story, I should probably use that some time! Hope that helps....