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Number closing – Confident assumptive approach?
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Author:  Rexus [ Sun Jul 10, 2011 4:10 pm ]
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I number closed this HB8.5 at the supermarket (she was a cashier) yesterday. I was quite happy with myself as we only had about 2 minutes to talk, which usually in the past has meant there was no where near enough time to build up attraction. Just as I was about to leave, I said “you know, it would be good to continue this conversation, you should give me your number”. (This is becoming a tried and tested line for me lol!). She was taken aback and blushing slightly when I said that and didn’t say anything for a couple of seconds. As she didn’t say anything I then said “if you want” to which she said paused and said “yes”.

This leads me to 2 questions:

When faced with that pause (like I was) after asking for her number, I’m sure there was something better for me to say than simply “if you want”? Something cocky & funny possibly, such as “you don’t want this to be one of the regrets in your life by not taking the opportunity” with a smile on my face as I say it. What would you say?

When number closing or asking a girl out for a date, would you recommend using an assumptive confident/cocky funny approach as opposed to the “would you like to/can I have your number etc”?

Author:  Rockstar815 [ Mon Jul 11, 2011 5:52 pm ]
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theres a whole bunch of ways to do it but i personally like this: start walking away but then turn arouand and say something like "ya know im gonna regret this if i dont do it but here im gonna give you my number that way if you ever feel like continuing this conversation call me" then as your saying that write your number down on a piece of paper hand it to her and walk away confident

Author:  Slip n Slide [ Mon Jul 11, 2011 7:36 pm ]
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theres a whole bunch of ways to do it but i personally like this: start walking away but then turn arouand and say something like "ya know im gonna regret this if i dont do it but here im gonna give you my number that way if you ever feel like continuing this conversation call me" then as your saying that write your number down on a piece of paper hand it to her and walk away confident
Naw fuck that. Too easy to get turned down. You should have taken her silence as a yes and handed her your phone to put her number down.

Author:  TheFreshPrince [ Mon Jul 11, 2011 9:24 pm ]
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Wat Slip n Slide said would definitely work, and even your other cocky-funny response sounds ok. What you said, actually, was probably the worst thing to say, though. It worked, so don't worry about it (if it works, no problem, right? :wink: ), but next time, you want to come across as being indifferent to whether you got the number or not. A simple "or not" with a shrug will throw her off. Her pause seemed to say to me that she was afraid you were a little forward. No problem there. Her hesitance was, in a way, a good thing, as she was having to decide what your intentions were, and how far she wanted to take a "continuation of a conversation". Having a piece of paper and pen, though, would help a lot in these situations, being able to just hand her both after your nonchalant "or not", affirms that you can take it or leave it, but you are definitely interested.

I always keep a fold-up-pen in my back pocket, and in this situation, using your receipt would make this seem an ordinary, but spontaneous thing. i prefer to have the number on a sheet of paper, as opposed to just in my phone. Either way, though, Congratulations!

Author:  Rockstar815 [ Mon Jul 11, 2011 10:22 pm ]
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theres a whole bunch of ways to do it but i personally like this: start walking away but then turn arouand and say something like "ya know im gonna regret this if i dont do it but here im gonna give you my number that way if you ever feel like continuing this conversation call me" then as your saying that write your number down on a piece of paper hand it to her and walk away confident
Naw fuck that. Too easy to get turned down. You should have taken her silence as a yes and handed her your phone to put her number down.
but this way you dont look as needy it makes her think he doesnt really care if she calls him

Author:  Rexus [ Thu Jul 14, 2011 8:15 pm ]
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Wat Slip n Slide said would definitely work, and even your other cocky-funny response sounds ok. What you said, actually, was probably the worst thing to say, though. It worked, so don't worry about it (if it works, no problem, right? :wink: ), but next time, you want to come across as being indifferent to whether you got the number or not. A simple "or not" with a shrug will throw her off. Her pause seemed to say to me that she was afraid you were a little forward. No problem there. Her hesitance was, in a way, a good thing, as she was having to decide what your intentions were, and how far she wanted to take a "continuation of a conversation". Having a piece of paper and pen, though, would help a lot in these situations, being able to just hand her both after your nonchalant "or not", affirms that you can take it or leave it, but you are definitely interested.

I always keep a fold-up-pen in my back pocket, and in this situation, using your receipt would make this seem an ordinary, but spontaneous thing. i prefer to have the number on a sheet of paper, as opposed to just in my phone. Either way, though, Congratulations!
Thanks for all replies. I quite like the "or not" response in this one.

Funnily enough, from such a short interaction with her, it progressed into getting her number and a date (drinks and meal) yesterday. It went well enough for me to get a 2nd date, I think.

In the end, I suppose, that if the girl likes you, she likes you. Therefore, on these rare occasions lol when a girl is into you from the start, such a short amount of time doesn’t prevent you from getting her number.

As for being cocky & funny, it actually quite suits my personality as I can come across as that (more cocky than funny though lol!) naturally, so I think I will try and build my skill in that area.

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