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| Author: | Travis1987 [ Thu Jul 07, 2011 12:44 am ] |
| Post subject: | Great day 2. Terrible ending. any way to salvage? |
Please critique me on what I should have done and what I should do now if I'd like to continue pursuing this girl. Met a girl at a bar Saturday night and k-closed. I got her number and we went on a date Monday night. We went to a place i know around her neighborhood - conversation was great and I kept up with the kino the entire date. We went to a couple different bars before we ended the night around 1 am. As I was walking hand in hand with her back to her place she said "you dont have to walk me home you know". I ignored it and just said its easy to catch a cab in that area anyway. The rest of the walk she acted wierd and when we got back to her apartment building I said goodnight, made out with her a bit and was about to head off. But she just stood there and didnt walk into her building. She looked at me and told me that all I wanted from her was sex and that shes not that type of girl. I denied it and told her that I was just out to have a good time with an awesome girl I met. Then she looked at me and started crying. She said that when we walked back hand in hand from the bar it reminded her of the walks she had with her ex (her 3+ yr relationship ended last week). I told her that its completely normal to not get over such a long term relationship in a week and that although the timing is shitty I'd still hang out with her again. I told her I'm not looking for anything serious and that I just enjoy meeting new friends and that she was just a new friend who I enjoy being with whom tihngs just might happen with. She then changed the subject back and forth from her boyfriend to me just wanting sex from her. She said that I can find people my own age to have sex with (she's only like 5 yrs older than me). The night ended with me calming her down a little bit and as she walked away I told her to smile for me before she left because it looks good on her. She complied with a smile and walked off - I hailed a cab and went home alone - My genitals have not yet forgiven me. End of story. Now I know I messed up bad at the end. I probably shoud not have defended myself about just wanting sex - I probably should have acted insulted that she would think of me as that type of person. I also should not have complimented her referring to her as an awesome girl and giving her the validation that i would like to see her again. As soon as she started crying my mind went blank and like an idiot I comforted her. It's obvious shes not over her boyfriend but thats to be expected since the relationship has only been over for a week. How would people have played this differently and more importantly how can I recover from this if I want to see her again (I do)? Thanks |
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| Author: | HouseFire [ Thu Jul 07, 2011 1:28 am ] |
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i havnt been in this situation (im still kind of an AFC) but ive noticed that you have to stick to your guns and keep playing the game (pun intended). its like with actors or comedians. they have to continue with their material and not break character because it just makes it WAY better for their routines. especially when its impromptu...watch some Whose Line Is It Anyway to get what i mean. |
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| Author: | Travis1987 [ Thu Jul 07, 2011 11:11 pm ] |
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Follow up question: So I held out on contacting her but she just contacted me through this text: "hey i just wanted to apologize for wat happened on tues. i didnt know i was still feeling that way but i do appreciate you being nice and empathetic when i was upset. hope youve had a great week and happy thursday!" sounds like a "friend" text to me and that shes still into her boyfriend. any way to turn this around and recover from it? |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Fri Jul 08, 2011 12:46 am ] |
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First of all, there's nothing wrong with comforting her. You can argue with different people all day long about how to comfort a girl without being an AFC, but bottom line is to still leave the girl better off than when you met her. You asked what you did wrong. In my opinion, the worst thing you did was go after a girl who just had a break up with her boyfriend, especially without being prepared with how to deal with it. Personally, I avoid these girls any way they come. They always have issues, even if not issues with you, and most often are trying to make their exes jealous or are trying to simply make themselves feel better. Having just had their heart broken, so to speak, they are very unprepared to open their heart to anyone else. Or their body, for that matter. You can definitely see her again, but you'll have to be patient. You are in danger of being in the friend zone after that chat, so you need to recover from that. And she needs to recover from her infatuation with her ex. Tell her you're glad she's feeling better, and that she should contact you when she's recovered, so that you two can go out on a date without stuff coming up. |
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| Author: | ClavoARG [ Wed Jul 20, 2011 5:40 pm ] |
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Drop her if you dont want a LTR, the girl need your time and comprehension is clearly disturbed by her past relationship. |
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