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| Author: | mendax [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 10:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | She's "not sure" about a Day2. What did I do wrong? help! |
Hey everyone, this isn't really urgent or anything, but I'd appreciate the help because this girl is certainly my top pick out of a few options. So it started this past thursday, she came to hang out with me and some friends I was with at a bar. I've met her before but only kind of know her. We really hit it off, tons of touching going on, playing with her hair, held my hand for awhile on the table, rested her hand on my leg, had her whole body turned towards me and sitting next to me, only talking to me... etc. Then she asks for my number (with a stupid pretense that may or may not matter. Details if asked.) Even our mutual friends were giving me the thumbs up from behind her back. Anyway, I ask her out to lunch the following day, she asks me to pick her up, and after lunch I ask her if she needs me to drop her off (she had things to do), or if she wanted to hang out some more. I was in the middle of debating whether to do something indoor/outdoor when she suggests a movie. We go watch limitless, and the only awkward part (I think), is when I realized she had raised the arms between our chairs while I went to the bathroom so I put my arm around her shoulder. Didn't feel a vibe so after a couple mins, I took my arm away. I try again later and she rejects the movement, so I don't escalate kino for the rest of the movie to not make it awkward. I drop her off after her place, but she's texting me afterwards (I can post the texts if you guys need/ask). Later that night, I pick her up again to go to a mutual friends party. We go, have fun, but don't really escalate or ping off one another, I may have dropped the ball, but I could tell that the vibe had somewhat disappeared and I wasn't sure if it was the movie or something else. Plus later she told me that she was tired enough that she almost didn't want to go to the party. Anyway, the next day spring break starts. I text her a bit each day to try and keep some connection going. (again I can post the texts if you guys ask/need) Just yesterday I ask her to a day two in kind of an AFC way (but just after a DHV spike): me 5:02pm: [DHV omitted]....What day do you get back in SD? Her 5:19pm: mmm. Not sure yet. Possibly saturday. Me 5:23: Well I ask because I'd like to take you out if you're interested. And you should totally swing by lb if its Sat. I hear there's an amazing lecture being given there. (I'm giving the lecture) Her 5:35: I'm sorry M, i'm not sure that's a good idea :-/ and i'm taking the train, which doesn't go to long beach, sorry! Best of luck in the lecture! Me 5:37: No problem and thanks for the luck! Her 5:41: So, guesses? If you guys think it wasn't my psuedo-date, I can post the back and forth text game, which isn't perfect but I don't think I did badly. Also, is this just a "I'm not sure I want to do a Day 2, keep trying", or do you think this is more of a precursor to a LJBF conversation? |
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| Author: | Didactic [ Thu Mar 31, 2011 3:47 pm ] |
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Do you think you might've come on a bit strong on your date? The best thing I can think of is to not contact her, but try to organize a place that you'll both be and get some attention from other females (friends or not). Then when she gets jealous and tries to reconnect with you, brush her off for a while and make her work for your interest. And remember with texts, wait at least as long as she took to reply to you to reply to her. Next time she talks to you and asks how you are... "I'm amazing! I just came back from (DHV story)...." Hope that helps, Crayon |
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