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Author:  Teknine [ Fri Mar 11, 2011 5:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Post-first date communications - how'd i screw up?

What up guys. I just want to understand where I might have fucked this up so I might improve next time. I met a bunch of girls from online and brute force approaching because I was/am trying to get over some oneitis. This is one such story from that. I think my apathy from the oneitis is showing in my game, but still want to know how I fucked this up.

-Meet girl for date 1; date goes well; she wants to extend it; she pays for most everything; however, Epic Fail on the kiss close as I didn't see the opening for it and was a little too drunk, so we hugged and agreed we'd be in touch
-Texted her 2 days later, said we should meet again; instant text back w/smilies, etc from her that we should; I didn't set anything up at that point cuz i thought it would be needy and it was the start of the weekend. said i'd call her soon
-Called her the next monday; voicemail; left short message, nothing funny, just 'hey it's Tek. call me back'
-2 days later, she texts me 'hey thanks for your mssg. my week sucks. how are you?'
-I respond 3 hrs later: 'just got back into town from business trip; how are things'

radio silence. i realize i should have upped the playfulness in the texts and hammered out a concrete meet date. where to from here given no response? my first thought is wait till next week and tell her to meet me for drinks/dinner somewhere.

Author:  hawksterG [ Fri Mar 11, 2011 8:19 pm ]
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Shes probably busy. It happens. If not, just text her saying something reminded you of her. Be funny. You can in the same text, set up a followup.

Alien line seems to always work.

"Hey, i don't think i will ever see you again. I just found out aliens are coming to abduct all the good looking ass people. You will be safe... i'm just texting to say goodbye. :P"

If and when she responds. Text back "Oh wait, i heard they're stopping to get some gas, I might have some time to spare. Haha, when are you free?"

Author:  Teknine [ Fri Mar 11, 2011 9:34 pm ]
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safe, bud. thanks for the insights. Alien line is pretty creative - I like that. big ups.

so it seems that in this case I can basically just reset and text her. was acting as if ball was in her court, but sounds like doesn't matter here.

Author:  Bromelo [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 1:27 pm ]
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Hey bit of a Newb here but,
I do think the mistake you made is her view of you changed. Assuming you used decent game to get her ( u must have at least gotten attraction), your failure to kiss her and inability to contact her ( or when doing so being very terse) drove her to conclude you where either too scared to make a move ( major DLV). In the future, either make a move or if you fail hammer down a solid day 2 and qualify with a joke like "I don't make out on the first date, god how easy are you?"

Good luck man and I made the same mistake a few weeks ago.

Author:  Teknine [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 2:47 pm ]
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Bromelo - dude I think you are right about her view of me changing. Basically, my personality did a 180 from in person vs. text and it fucked things up. Partly because I broke things off w/stupid oneitis girl while all this texting with this girl was happening, so i was terse/aloof/apathetic. At this point I will do an experiment to see if I can revive this.

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