For me, it seems like the past 5 girls I gamed in a row were interested at some point and then suddenly flaked so I assume they lost interest. Yeah it leaves me feeling like there's something inherently wrong with me I don't know about. So I just self-evaluate myself and ask questions to myself like am I good looking? I think I am pretty decent, I'm not a 10 but I'm not a 6 either, girls have come right up to me before ect. what can I do to improve that even more? (go to the gym). Now since looks apparently don't matter as much to women (a lot are turned off by really fat dudes though) what else could be wrong? (money/status) how can I improve that? For me I am finishing college so that will take time to get a high paying job. Unless I win the lottery I can't fix that aspect right away (legally).
Ok so that leaves the other stuff like your personality. I am on the quiet more reserved side but I'm much more outgoing than I use to be as an AFC nice guy teenager 4 or 5 years ago.
But I can always improve, that's where game comes in.
What sucks is the lack of results when you think you did everything right at least for me it is.
So I have just concluded that there could be many reasons why they loose interest many of which is probably beyond your control. She could like someone else, she may not like your hair color, you may not fit her "perfect image" (no guys will). You name it. So with that said, why force something that just isn't meant to be. It's her loss, if you answer positively to a lot of your own questions and think your a great guy, that's all that matters. She missed out.
Now for me, what hurts aside from all that is.
1. I was really into her
2. What if it was something small I said or did that made the difference (I fucked up)
Again that goes to something you can't control since it's the past.
I personally try to be as much as "myself" personality wise that I can while fusing aspects of the game into that. Being the best that I can be and as non AFC as I can while still being me. I don't want to come off fake. Ex. I can nor ever will be able to emulate mystery nor do I want to. I'm not that kind of personality. I probably am closer to Matador If I were to pick a MPUA ideal. However you have to be your own person.
If you game too hard, try to hard, picking up too hard, then your not really being yourself and enjoying the moment I think you come off as too artificial and fake.
I think girls can pick up on that and sense a fake player personality and that could be why too.
The pain eventually goes away the next day, and the sun continues to rise and more opportunities come along eventually although it make take a few days/weeks. I figure if you keep working at it, eventually it'll all work out.
I'm just speculating/rambling but that's what I've thought of my recent flake situations the last few months.
Just my 2 cents.
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