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Author:  MiniMoose [ Thu Dec 23, 2010 10:00 pm ]
Post subject:  How to move from facebook to meeting up for a date?
Hey guys, new to pick up here so hopefully you guys can give me some advice on this one.

A couple days ago, I added this really cute girl that goes to my school, although ive never talked to her and barely know who she is (just going off of looks here). She messages me back saying "Hey do I know you?" and from there I just started working her, eventually getting a very enthusiastic number exchange from her, all the while theres lots of flirty undertones in her messages. I was using the disqualification method such as saying shes not cool enough to hang out with upperclassmen, too peppy for me to ever like her, etc. She played along well...

The problem here lies in the fact that once I got her number, things slowly started going badly (or so I think).

Everythings going well, shes giving obvious IOIs, tons of smilies, a few double texts, etc. I tell her ill hit her up later and we can do something, to which she says "Alrighty hun ;)" Going pretty well right?

Didnt respond, then she out of nowhere asks me where I live by...So i told her, then asking if she was planning on stalking me. She says "how did u guess?" to which I told her about how I "asked about her" to some kids in her grade. This is about where things started going badly.

She says "oh god. i bet they said mean things" and all this shit about how she hates everyone in her class, etc, shit i dont care about. then the texts from her start coming slower and less often. then when later I ask when shes getting home from her night out, she says "Idk but i kinda just wanna go home and relax!"

Uh-Oh. I tell her shes no fun, to which she explains she was "having a bad night" and i told her if she ever needed someone to make her feel better to gimme a call. Again she started using more pet names like "honey, babe" etc. but still, after a while the texts start slowing down and stop coming from her, oddly right after i told her my night was awesome, except for the fact she wasnt there.

BUT, i wake up to a text from her "well hello there :)", but it doesnt take her long to start playing her games again with super long times in between responses, eventually just not responding in the middle of a convo. Touche...

SO after reading all that, how do I go from here? I wanna meet this girl in real life, and just get beyond the "text only" rut ive fallen in to now. Whats the best way to go about this? out of the blue just ask her if shes down to go to a movie? Ask in advance when shes gonna be free? Is she even into me? Im good with opening, gaming, etc i just cant seem to clinch a date!

Thanks for reading, lemme know what you think
Author:  pua_666 [ Thu Dec 23, 2010 11:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to move from facebook to meeting up for a date?
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Hey guys, new to pick up here so hopefully you guys can give me some advice on this one.

A couple days ago, I added this really cute girl that goes to my school, although ive never talked to her and barely know who she is (just going off of looks here). She messages me back saying "Hey do I know you?" and from there I just started working her, eventually getting a very enthusiastic number exchange from her, all the while theres lots of flirty undertones in her messages. I was using the disqualification method such as saying shes not cool enough to hang out with upperclassmen, too peppy for me to ever like her, etc. She played along well...

The problem here lies in the fact that once I got her number, things slowly started going badly (or so I think).

Everythings going well, shes giving obvious IOIs, tons of smilies, a few double texts, etc. I tell her ill hit her up later and we can do something, to which she says "Alrighty hun ;)" Going pretty well right?

Didnt respond, then she out of nowhere asks me where I live by...So i told her, then asking if she was planning on stalking me. She says "how did u guess?" to which I told her about how I "asked about her" to some kids in her grade. This is about where things started going badly.

She says "oh god. i bet they said mean things" and all this shit about how she hates everyone in her class, etc, shit i dont care about. then the texts from her start coming slower and less often. then when later I ask when shes getting home from her night out, she says "Idk but i kinda just wanna go home and relax!"

Uh-Oh. I tell her shes no fun, to which she explains she was "having a bad night" and i told her if she ever needed someone to make her feel better to gimme a call. Again she started using more pet names like "honey, babe" etc. but still, after a while the texts start slowing down and stop coming from her, oddly right after i told her my night was awesome, except for the fact she wasnt there.

BUT, i wake up to a text from her "well hello there :)", but it doesnt take her long to start playing her games again with super long times in between responses, eventually just not responding in the middle of a convo. Touche...

SO after reading all that, how do I go from here? I wanna meet this girl in real life, and just get beyond the "text only" rut ive fallen in to now. Whats the best way to go about this? out of the blue just ask her if shes down to go to a movie? Ask in advance when shes gonna be free? Is she even into me? Im good with opening, gaming, etc i just cant seem to clinch a date!

Thanks for reading, lemme know what you think
My 2 cents: She is waiting for you to make the first move! Dude, if you want to meet her, just ask her out! We have to atleast take that risk. If she says no, say NEXT and move on! But, my 6th sense says she will say yes to whatever you ask for and rest is upto you. Ask her if she wanna hangout and let me know! :D

All the best!
Author:  MiniMoose [ Fri Dec 24, 2010 5:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to move from facebook to meeting up for a date?
Quote:
My 2 cents: She is waiting for you to make the first move! Dude, if you want to meet her, just ask her out! We have to atleast take that risk. If she says no, say NEXT and move on! But, my 6th sense says she will say yes to whatever you ask for and rest is upto you. Ask her if she wanna hangout and let me know! :D

All the best!
Yep, before i got to read ur response I kinda "caved" and just asked her out the next time she initiated conversation. We're texting back and forth right now, but something tells me that texting just seems like one of those things that once i get the date set i should just back off cause it can only do me more harm than good. Probably just gonna wait till monday when we're supposed to meet up, ill let u know what happens :D
Author:  Jester123 [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 1:11 pm ]
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Iv been talking to this girl on fb too. Do you guys find it's weird transitioning from online game to like real life meet up. Especially with someone you met online. Anyway I think you have build some good rapport and attraction but you should convey interest and definately don't forget the kino.
Author:  darkslayer [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 7:45 pm ]
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my routines have been the same FB, texting, a couple of fone calls, then a date. Every girl is different though
Author:  _Lothario_ [ Sun Dec 26, 2010 8:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to move from facebook to meeting up for a date?
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My 2 cents: She is waiting for you to make the first move! Dude, if you want to meet her, just ask her out! We have to atleast take that risk. If she says no, say NEXT and move on! But, my 6th sense says she will say yes to whatever you ask for and rest is upto you. Ask her if she wanna hangout and let me know! :D

All the best!
Yep, before i got to read ur response I kinda "caved" and just asked her out the next time she initiated conversation. We're texting back and forth right now, but something tells me that texting just seems like one of those things that once i get the date set i should just back off cause it can only do me more harm than good. Probably just gonna wait till monday when we're supposed to meet up, ill let u know what happens :D
Have you initiated an actual phone call? If things are going well through facebook/text, I would give her a call to plan things. You don't want to keep all your conversation through text right up until the date. I don't know if you're meeting somewhere or picking her up, but you really don't want to be texting her from the driveway/rendezvous.

Phone calls are more "real" than texting. Texting gives you that flirting advantage of pet names and opening her up sexually, but real connections can me made stronger through tone of voice, and flakes can more easily be avoided.

She has nothing to do. She probably doesnt have a good social circle, seeing that she says she "hates" everyone in her class, so her schedule should be free most of the time. I would refrain from keeping texts going on throughout the day and give her a call later tonight.

And if she doesn't answer, LEAVE A NICE MESSAGE.

Girls LOVE it when you call. And leaving a message will give you some sincerity points.

If she flakes, MOVE ON. Within a week or so, she'll be chasing you anyways. If not, she's a coward. Cowards aren't fun. You don't like girls that are no fun. You don't care if a girl you don't like isn't chasing you.
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